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Chef Talk: Tom Condron of The Liberty Gastropub, Part II

Saturday, June 25th, 2011

Last week we posted the first part of our interview with Chef Tom Condron, Executive Chef and co-owner of The Liberty Gastropub in Charlotte, North Carolina. This week we’ve got the rest of our conversation with Tom where we touched on some things like why he’s grown to like pairing his dishes with beer, some general cooking questions and what challenges he faces as a professional chef cooking for his own family.

PJ: When I was here for the mango event a couple of weeks ago, you made a comment about pairing food and you talked about wine, but you also said these days you actually look forward more to pairing things with beer. Given that this is a Gastropub, tell me a little more about why you would rather pair with beer than wine these days?

TC: I tell you this is shocking to me to tell you the truth. I mean I’m in my late 40s and I grew up like most young kids sneaking beers – and not very good ones. Then when I got into the industry my family was very much into buying, storing, and selling wines. And later in my early 20s I really fell in love with wines and through the next 20 years my whole life revolved around food and wine.

Being a chef and in doing thousands upon thousands of wine dinners I would always kind of grunged if one of my managers said “Hey, Chef, can we do a beer dinner?” I’d be like “You’re crazy, nobody wants to come to a beer dinner”. Who wants to sit down and drink five different beers with the five different courses? I’ve done a few in my past life and I didn’t particularly like it all that much.

Then when we opened up this restaurant and we decide to go Gastropub the key component of the whole thing was beer. That’s really what Gastropubs are surrounded around – good food, good beer. And the great thing about it is that America leads the craft beer industry. America has started revolution in the world of beer making more than Europeans have. The Europeans have always had good beer, but the Americans with the craft movement have really taken things to the next level.

I guess I was lucky because when I got to do the Gastropub is when this craft movement really started taking over, and it’s really fantastic. All these beers now that you taste are incredible. The nuances of these flavors you can really pull it out. I’ve been drinking wine forever and I think I have a pretty good palate. I know what I like and I know what I don’t like. I’m always willing to try things, but I can’t pull out the different nuances of wine that some people can by any means. I can pair wine with food. I can do a pretty good job at that, but the beers, you can really taste the flavors in these beers. And not only you can really taste flavors in these beers but they really go great with food because of what these beers are made with and how these craftsmen are brewing things with different herbs and different berries, and different woods, I mean it’s amazing.

In my opinion beer lends itself to food as well as wine does, especially these crafted beers and it’s really fun to do it. In the day that we live in now you can’t open up the local paper and not see 12 – 15 wine dinners in one week going on. Because everybody is trying to do something to bring in guests and there’s a lot of talented, creative chefs out here in Charlotte that are trying to do this all the time. But you don’t really see a lot of beer dinners. You will, though, I think down the road in the next five years.  It’s possible that beer dinners will maybe surpass wine dinners.

You can take the most highly crafted allocated beer that there is and still serve anywhere from a 10 to 16 ounce portion for $6. You can’t take a highly allocated glass of wine that’s out there that’s really high-end and sell it for even close to $6 –it’s going to be anywhere from $15 to $25 dollars. So, you could take a Bell’s Hopslam, one of the most highly allocated beers out there, get it in and you could serve it for $6-8 in a restaurant and have one of the best beers produced in the country.

PJ: You guys have done a lot of beer dinners. Recently, the Southern Tier introduction in North Carolina. How has it gone as far as how they’ve been received?

TC: Good. Southern Tier is out of New York, a brewery that’s been doing really good beer for a very long time and finally has had the opportunity to come here to North Carolina. We did their roll out. The craft beer movement is big; it’s really very, very big. Bigger than I ever thought it was and beer lovers out there are just insane about their beer. It’s just like wine lovers out there and what they are saying about their wines. People will go anywhere and everywhere to try beers that they have not tried. We’re very lucky that Matt, my business partner, is so into beers and is one of these beer lovers. He brings in the most unique beers and he’s always searching for something more and unique. At the same time we still stay true to what we’re doing and we still have PBR on, but next to the PBR will have one of the hardest to get beers as well.

PJ: A couple of general cooking questions, mostly to satisfy my own curiosity. Talk to me about salt; specifically sea salt versus kosher salt. Do you have a preference?

TC: Sea salt, I cook pretty much everything with sea salt. Kosher salt, you know, we use Kosher salt if I’m going to season short ribs before I sear them. The reason is, is that it’s going to cook for such a long period of time. Sea salt I use it when I’m sautéing fish or pan searing meat and chicken. Sea salt is natural. Kosher salt is natural in a sense, but additives are added to Kosher salt. There’s nothing they do to sea salt other than dry it and harvest it.

Now, some sea salt they do smoke it and add some things to it to give it a different taste and profile. I’m not into that stuff. I like good sea salt and with sea salt there are the many different grades. There’s sea salt that is basically used for your everyday cooking, then there’s flake sea salts that are for finishing dishes.

There’s nothing better than searing something and monte buerring (basting with butter), then putting it on the plate and finishing it with a little bit of sea salt. Salt makes you salivate; it opens up your palate and tells you something good is coming. It enhances the food.

Kosher salt has its place. Iodized salt has its place in baking and that’s about it. You can also get into all kinds of different things like this salt made in Hawaii that’s got lava flavor in it from the volcanoes. Good stuff, but give me maldon sea salt from England any day, I’m good with that.

PJ: Duck fat. I’ve got to ask you about duck fat. I said to someone that I had just bought some duck fat to make some duck fat potatoes and I also made rillette after I had your duck rillette here. A friend of mine just went off me about how bad it is. Everything I’ve read says that duck fat is very similar to olive oil. Is that accurate?

TC: Yes, it is. I mean duck fat is — and it’s like anything else. It’s all moderation. Duck fat is a cleaner fat, it’s not as bad for you as lard or beef fat. So it’s a healthy fat, but it’s something that you don’t want to consume every single day. And that to me is the great thing about food; everything is great in moderation. For those people that won’t eat something because of dietary restrictions or concerns that’s totally up to them. To me I’m a person that wants to try everything and eat everything, but, again, it’s all in moderation. To me duck fat rules. If I had the opportunity I would cook everything in duck fat. If I had cholesterol that was sub zero I would eat everything with duck fat.

PJ: OK, last question. Since this is for Digital Dads, as a professional chef which challenges do you have cooking for your own family?

TC: Well, I have probably have the biggest challenge because my mother-in-law, who lives with us, is Italian and is probably the best chef in our household. Her food is absolutely incredible. So, like most dad’s out there that have the opportunity to have their mother-in-law live with them, I would say that I have a bonus because I have a top notch chef that lives with us. Sunday suppers at my house are absolutely out of control for sure.

Other than that, as a chef everyone always say to your wife that “Oh, you must be so lucky because you’re husband is a chef.” I think that chef’s wives are the unluckiest wives because a chef is always in the kitchen in their restaurant and hardly ever home cooking. So, most have to be like most wives out there. They struggle to get the food on the table as well because all our time is pretty much spent in the kitchen, and not a home kitchen.

Digital Dads Exposed / P.W. Fenton

Monday, June 20th, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels.

I’m extra happy to have my good friend P.W. Fenton in the saddle this go around. When I asked him to tell me about himself, he took a deep breath and then shared, “I was born and raised on the Borough of Staten Island in New York City, I moved to the Tampa Bay area of Florida just before my 30th birthday, already a father of two girls,  and I have lived there ever since.  I am now 63 years old (and now a grandfather).  I started out wanting to be an actor, but family life got in the way.  I have worked as a TV Broadcast engineer, a photographer, a sound recording engineer, a police officer, an educational video producer,  a radio producer, and finally a semi-retired podcast producer… “Whew!”

Yes, everyone there really IS a Santa Claus. *grin*

 

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

Well… I’m a man… I’ve been around for a good while… and I’m gratefully still living in today’s world.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

Oh that is so totally my father.  He is simply the greatest person I have ever known.  I’ve never known a more honorable and giving person.  He represents an ideal I can never attain.  I lost him in 2007, and I still can’t accept that he’s gone.  He gave me everything I have that is me.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

Telling the story of my ordinary, yet extraordinary, life.  I hope I can do much more of that.

What is your parental philosophy?

While I think I’ve been a strict dad… like my father… also just like my father, I have been a close friend to my children.  Their whole life they were never treated as children… as separate from adults.  They were always included in everything we did.  They grew up interacting with adults, never feeling like they didn’t belong.  To me that is so important.  Of course they were indeed children.  Of course they acted like children… made decisions like children… but I never allowed myself to underestimate their abilities to understand and be a part of all that we were doing as adults.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

Seeing what incredible people both of my girls have become.  I am extremely proud of them.  It is a cliche that parents want their children to achieve more than they did.  I live that cliche.  My wife and I made sure they had the opportunity, and they took that opportunity and achieved wonderful things.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

Nowadays… it’s just getting to hang out with them.  We are simply peers now.  Sure we have a family history.  But now my children are people I would be friends with even if we weren’t related.  If I met them today, for the first time, in a pub, over a couple of beers… we would be instant friends.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

In a way that isn’t authoritative.  Sure, children need to be disciplined.  They certainly can’t be left to make their own choices.  You must control their lives until they can control their own.  But your job is to GUIDE them to good decisions… not dictate them.  If I force my children to do something I have achieved nothing.  If I convince my children that something is the “right” thing for them to do… then I have given them something.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

Oh by far, the Internet.  The opportunity to share my thoughts with others.  On the other hand… I consider the Internet to be the single greatest source of misinformation on Earth.  We must discriminate. :-)

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

Well I am no longer “raising” children, (I don’t think).  But when I was, they were always exposed to the leading edge of technology.  I was a geek.  There was a personal computer in our home as early as 1980.  They were never behind in that regard.  They were allowed to be as interested as they wanted to be, but they were never left behind technology wise.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

Well clearly… when I was growing up the norm was for the Dad to be the bread winner, and the Mom to be the child raiser.  My Dad was one of the vanguard that started changing all that.  My mom was always the “housewife”… but my Dad never accepted his role as ONLY the bread winner.  He did an extraordinary job as “bread winner”, working 3 jobs at one time, but he was also a highly active participant in the raising of his children.

Clearly, that has become more of the norm.  As earning a living has become divided more evenly between husband and wife, so must the responsibility for shaping the lives of our children.

Great answers! I’m psyched we finally got a chance to have you on. PW produces some of the highest quality content out there and I can’t encourage you enough to check it out. Digital Flotsam is one of my all time favorite podcasts, but he also produces other great content including Perfect Head, Whole Nuther Story and Bluesland.

 

/// Digital Dads Exposed returns next month with more unique and interesting perspectives on manhood and fatherhood. Is there someone you would like to see featured? send us an email.

Chef Talk: Tom Condron of The Liberty Gastropub, Part I

Saturday, June 18th, 2011


Since it is Father’s Day weekend I thought it would be fun to profile a chef who is also a father of three. Recently I had the opportunity to speak with Chef Tom Condron, the Executive Chef and co-owner of The Liberty Gastropub here in Charlotte.

I’ve written about The Liberty a number of times from my first experience at one of Tom’s cooking classes to making his Chorizo and Chocolate Crostini for an episode of Digital Dads in the Kitchen.

Here is a little background on Tom from The Liberty’s website:

Tom has been in the restaurant business since he was fourteen, working at the famed Dorchester Hotel in England. He has worked for eight Michelin starred chefs throughout his career. He is University of Florida Graduate, and later attended Johnson & Wales. He went on to work at such restaurants as Le Cirque, Jean Louis @ the Watergate, Aqua Restaurant in San Fransisco, the Boston Museum of Fine Arts Restaurant, the Peabody Hotel in Orlando and the Blue Ridge Grill in Atlanta. He joined the Harper’s Restaurant Group as Executive Chef for Mimosa Grill in 1997, and would come to open many of Charlotte’s best restaurants.

PJ Mullen: Tom, thanks for doing this. I really appreciate you taking time out to talk with me today. I’ve got a few questions for you, but first of all for those who don’t know, what is exactly is a Gastropub?

Chef Tom Condron: The term Gastropub was coined probably about 1985. It started out in Clerkenwell in London and some chefs who had all the Michelin restaurants decided that they were little tired of trying to keep up with the struggle that it is to be a Michelin chef, and the money has to be spent into it just to maintain and to gain more stars. They were British boys and they grew up in the pubs. The pub food in England back in that era was pretty much your typical pub fair. Good beer, not very good food, but most people didn’t go to the pub really to eat.

They decided that they wanted somewhere where they could go and have really good food, really good drink but at a more affordable price than you would pay to go to a Michelin starred restaurant. So, they took over an old freestanding pub and made it into what became The Eagle. Was it the first one? I don’t know, but it was definitely the one that put Gastropub’s on the map.

They started out producing really good food at really good price point with really good beers, and it really caught on.  Now people from all walks of life could go and eat well and drink at affordable prices. It took off all throughout England and then all of a sudden some of the other big chefs got into it – the Gordon Ramsay’s of the world, the Marco Pierre White’s of the world; all of them got into to putting up Gastropub’s because not only was it affordable from the cost standpoint of opening a restaurant, but it was also something that you could give affordability to your patrons as well.

PJ: Now, you were with the Harper’s Restaurant before you opened The Liberty, what drove you to open The Liberty?

TC: The Harper’s group is great. I came on board in 1998 with the job of turning the Mimosa Grill into a fine dining restaurant. From that point, we started to grow the company before I left to five fine dining restaurants: Mimosa, Upstream, Zink, Arpa and M5. I absolutely loved it. It was a great learning experience to open up different concepts at the high-end, but it was all high-end.

To be really honest, I was tired of serving a $38 seabass on a plate just to try to make ends meet and make the food costs work and serving a $16 house wine by the glass. I couldn’t afford that when I would go out to eat and lot of people couldn’t afford that when they go out to eat, either.

My perspective on what should go on in the restaurant business changed. I really wanted to do my own place and do it where it’s affordable and approachable to the guests. Most people thought we are crazy to open up at the time when we opened, but we decided that we wanted to open the restaurant and try to give Charlotte a Gastropub.

PJ: Now, when you’re creating a dish, where do you draw your inspiration?

TC: You know it’s funny, Jean-Louis Palladin once told me when I worked with him that you’ll be in your late 30s, or even in your 40s, before you realize what type of chef you really want to be. Of course when I was in my early 20s, I thought he was full of baloney, but he’s absolutely right. I think the older you get, the more simplistic you become and with what you want to do. You no longer want to try to change the world and reinvent everything anew. You want things very simple, very pure. So, my inspiration is definitely to simplicity.

In the Gastropub, because of the price point that I sell my food at, it does limit me in the sense that I’m not going after that high-end, very expensive center of the plate item like a filet mignon, or even lobster as a signature thing. I’m not looking to put on something that I would need to sell in the high 20s or even in the 30s just to make the food costs work. The inspiration comes because now you’re using product like pork belly or shanks. Things that are not unfamiliar to the American palate, but are not the items that when most people think about when they’re going out to eat.  Most people go out to eat and they want to eat salmon or filet mignon.  They want lobster – higher end things because that’s what people are accustomed to eating.

The inspiration also comes by procuring really high-end quality product. Our pork is locally grown and raised; our beef is locally grown and raised. A good portion of our produce is locally farmed and organic and has very low carbon footprint. We’re not trying to make a statement here that we’re ecological, sustainable, local and everything. We’re not trying to make that statement. I think we let the food show that that’s what we do, but we’re really looking to do is to get the people back into eating good food and good food that’s affordable.

Also, teaching cooks to get back into cooking and to really enjoy what they’re doing. I’ve got a lot of young cooks here who still want to work with all the outlandish, but great ingredients that are out there, and we try to provide some of that to them, still I want them to become good cooks first. Then after that they can experiment and become who they’ll become 20 years from now.

PJ: Speaking of locally, you recently planted your own herb garden so some of your ingredients in your dishes are as local as they could be. How has that worked out for you?

TC: Oh great. You know there’s nothing better than being able to walk out and cut fresh herbs and use them that night and then the next day cut fresh herbs and use them that night again. We had a space and wanted to grow something, so we popped it in there.

We outsource a lot of our local stuff here. I have two farmers from whom I buy a lot of my basic ingredients on the menu. They grow a lot of fresh herbs for me. They’ve got a small little half-acre of land where everything they grow we will buy. And it’s all the herbs and everything. Stuff that I know that we used on a regular basis day in and day out and you want that to be as fresh as possible. I can get that four times a week versus buying it through other procurement sources, which is a week, two weeks old already by the time we get it. But we had a little spot we wanted to do something nice and aesthetically it looks good.

PJ: I’ve been to a couple of your cooking classes and I always have a great time at them. One of the things you said that really stuck into my mind is that good food takes time. And you talked a little about the slow food movement. Is that a part of the driver in using some of the lesser known cuts of meat for the main proteins in your dishes?

TC: I guess the upside to doing the Gastropub is like I said earlier that we have to do cuts of meat that are at a more affordable price point. Nowadays not much is inexpensive, most cuts are getting expensive, but because we have to use cuts that are working muscle meats they are better cuts to begin with. They are always more flavorful with a better fat to meat ratio. However, because they’re working muscles, most items are not something that you can just roast, quick sauté, or grill like a filet mignon. So, they need some time to be able to do correctly and a lot of that is slow, slow cooking. Either by slow roasting or braising to really enhance and bring out the flavors of these meats.

Filet mignon is a beloved meat not only in America but in England and pretty much worldwide, but the funny thing about filet is that it is very flavorless piece of meat. I did a cooking class last night and I showed people how to pan roast filet mignon to really get a good glaze on it – keep a liquid in it while it’s searing to keep it moist and how to get a good crust to form on it. Then you can get some good quality and good flavor out of a filet. But, to put a filet mignon on a grill and cook it in 12 minutes like most restaurants do to get it up to a medium rare temperature you don’t put a lot of flavor into it.

Even if you are using wood and hickory it’s not on the grill long enough to pick up the flavor. So, again, it’s a very tender piece of meat on a plate but it lacks depth and character in my opinion, whereas a braised piece of meat of working muscles, slow cooked and slow roasted you can really taste the work.  Done right, you can really taste the passion and the love that somebody has put into it in cooking it.

PJ: I definitely agree with you on that one. When I was just out in the work force as a young professional I always wanted to go somewhere where I could get filet during business dinners. It wasn’t until I started really exploring cooking myself and started braising beef short ribs that I decided I would never order tenderloin again.

TC: It’s always great to watch the young cook when they first braise something for the first time and you watch their eyes when they take in the whole process. It’s not something like putting a piece of meat on a grill and grilling it, then 15 minutes later it’s off the grill and you plate it before it goes out into the dining room. When they finish that dish they’ve had to prepare and monitor throughout the day, you could just see the light go off on their heads and that’s one of those things I think really changes these cooks. I don’t know if the culinary schools really teach that, as much I think that’s something that they really learn when they’re in the restaurant business.

Come back next week for the second part of my talk with Chef Tom Condron, Executive Chef and Co-Owner of The Liberty Gastropub.

Digital Dads Exposed / DJ Waldow

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature DJ Waldow—Director of Community at Blue Sky Factory.

 

 

“…Father to Eva Claire, aka @BabyWaldow…U of Michigan alumni (’98) and a diehard fan—I even have a “block M” tattoo on my right wrist…”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

First, I think it’s way easier to be a man then it is to be a woman. Guys have it relatively easy. I tell my wife this all of the time. Being a man in today’s world means being an individual. It means being the best person – dad, partner, friend, sibling, etc – that you can be. Every day. All of the time.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

I would say it’s less *what* and more *who*. Reframing the question that way, the answer is simple: My parents. I was 10 years old when my parents got divorced. While not always civil towards each other, they both were – and still are – incredible parents. Their parenting styles are different, yet they both taught me to be a individual, to be confident, to question everything, to not be afraid to fail, and to try different things. Even at age 35, I still lean heavily on my parents for advice.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

Ha! I wish I could dedicate time to pause and reflect. My personality is not compatible with pausing. I’m always thinking, always doing, always on the go. In some ways, I think this is what has made me successful; however, in other ways it’s probably held me back. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking while running. I’m training for the Ogden, UT marathon in May 2011. 90+ minute runs provide quite a bit of time to think.

What is your parental philosophy?

I’m a new dad. My daughter, @babywaldow, turns a year old at the end of March. So my philosophy is still coming together. Overall though, my wife and I try to expose our daughter to as many things as possible. We want to experience life to it’s fullest so that she’ll be informed when it comes to the point where she makes her own decisions. My wife and I do our best to be aware of the environmental impact our daughter will have on this world (we use gDiapers). We struggle with the balance of wanting her to have everything possible, yet also to appreciate what she has.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

I appreciate the fact that I’m helping to shape the future of another human being. Nature aside, my wife and I have the power to influence who our daughter becomes. She’s a sponge right now – soaking up knowledge that will impact her forever. That’s pretty powerful.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

I love crawling around on the floor with my daughter (again, she’s 11 months old). I love feeding her. I love dressing her. I love doing anything with her that causes a smile or laugh. I love looking at her when she is sleeping. I love snuggling with her. Honestly, I love ever single second I spend with my daughter.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

It depends on the situation. Some of my best lessons learned from my father were after I screwed up. Other times, we were just having a casual conversation and my dad dropped some knowledge on me that I still remember to this day.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

Easy. My iPhone. The impact is a bit of a mixed bag. On one hand, I love being ultra-connected. Love it. I love that I can learn something new with a few clicks, whether it be a blog post, Facebook status update, YouTube video, tweet, text, or phone conversation. I love that I can communicate with just about anyone, anywhere, at anytime via various networks … all from my mobile device. However, my iPhone can also have a negative impact. I’ve caught myself checking Twitter, Facebook, and/or my email while I should be spending time with my wife and daughter. That’s bad. Most of the stuff on my iPhone can wait. Family cannot.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

It’s huge. They joke with me at daycare that our daughter is the most photographed, videotaped child they’ve ever seen. I have hours of video (all from my iPhone) and thousands of pictures. My wife and I have created albums – both on and offline, as well as dozens of videos pulled from hundreds of short clips. We text & email each other as well as family and friends, pictures and videos nearly every day. We communicate with our family via Skype. My daughter was tweeting in utero and has a blog (In August, we decided to make her social profiles private. I actually wrote a blog post about it, Baby Waldow Is Now Private). My daughter has “typed” (banged) on my MacBook, tapped away on my iPad, and nearly eaten my iPhone.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

I think we are already seeing the changes. Men are no longer the sole income providers. Men are more involved with their children, more involved with family. Men cook. Men clean. Then again, we still watch sports, still drink beer, and still are … well … dudes. I love it.

‘Preciate it, DJ! Be sure to hit @DJWaldow up via Twitter!

/// Digital Dads Exposed returns next month with more unique and interesting perspectives on manhood and fatherhood. Is there someone you would like to see featured? send us an email.

Digital Dads Exposed / Amir “Sa’id” Said

Wednesday, April 13th, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature Amir “Sa’id” Said—author and publisher.

I’m a writer and publisher—author of ‘The BeatTips Manual’—and more importantly, a father from Brooklyn, NY. My son (14)—my hero—, is also a writer, an actor, and a budding filmmaker.”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

My perspective on what it means to be a man living in today’s world is underscored by my outlook on life, which I characterize, fundamentally, as my commitment to learning and teaching. I don’t believe that this outlook is exclusive to men. However, I do find it to be a necessary prerequisite to the growth of any man living in today’s world, especially when you consider the role that a broad knowledge-base increasingly plays.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

Growing up, the things that influenced me the most—aside from an eclectic taste in music and literature, of course—were the lessons that I learned about independence, having a strong sense of humility, and the importance of creating realistic plans. I’d also have to say that my father’s absence from my life—from age 8 through my teens—was also among the things (and ideas) that have influenced me the most and shaped the man that I am today.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

That’s an ironic question, because I’m always reflecting, no matter what activity that I’m engaged in. That’s how I’m wired. But there are times that I like to take breaks. And depending on what I’m taking a break from, I’ll either write some more, or perhaps read, or even play a game of Madden with my son (when he’s available, if not, I’ll find a match on Xbox Live).

What is your parental philosophy?

My parental philosophy is simple: Prepare your children for those opportunities that best suit their talents and what they enjoy; and perhaps above all, encourage your children to consistently think about the ways in which they will parent.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

There are many things that I appreciate about being a father, but perhaps what I appreciate the most is the privilege of being friends with my son.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

Wow, my son and I enjoy a number of activities together, but by far my favorite activity to do with my son is to watch films and then analyze them afterwards.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

I’m not sure if there’s any “universal” way for each father to impart wisdom to his children. The reality is, the ways in which we share knowledge or “break things down” to our children is determined largely by the unique nature of our children. I think what’s more important for fathers (parents) is not merely imparting wisdom, but instead, understanding how your children learn and what sort of things and ideas that they respond to the most.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

That’s easy, my computer. And I’d say that the impact is very necessary.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

Technology doesn’t shape the way I raise and influence my son. I am not at the mercy of technology, rather technology is at the mercy of me. It’s there, in all of its glory and capability, to be used in the most helpful manner that I can discover.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

I think the roles of people in general will change in the future. Both men and women are having children much later in life than before. I think this trend will continue in the future. How will this change the roles of men in the future? I’m not sure. But I do believe the number of single dads will increase dramatically, which means traditional “men roles” will expand.

‘Preciate it, Sa’id!

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Digital Dads Exposed / Matt Ridings

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature Matt Ridings—founder of MSR Consulting and an independent strategy consultant.

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

My son is 11 yrs old now, and I spend an inordinate amount of thinking about this question. I think it’s a confusing time for men in general. Balancing the nuances of “being a man”, chivalry vs. sexism, role delineation in a empowered world, emotional vs. weak, etc. is challenging. Respect and intent, are the common threads that guide my actions and keep me out of trouble…for the most part. I’m still going to hold the door open for a woman, I’m still going to let the women and children get off the sinking ship first, it’s who I am and my mother would be sorely disappointed if I didn’t.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

The divorce of my parents when I was 9. They are such different people with very different perspectives on parenting and life. Had they stayed together that diversity of opinion would have been smothered, but their separation allowed me to learn the value of each of their points of view. The value of hard work, responsibility, empathy, and humility were core traits instilled in me.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

Twitter or private group messaging. Whether it’s those moments where I’m struggling with the value of a ‘big idea’ or a more personal dilemma there is always an appropriate ear within the relationships I’ve fostered with those venues. Sometimes you need a kick in the ass, other times a sympathetic ear. I’m lucky enough to have people in my life who can do both with grace.

What is your parental philosophy?

To try and recognize when my son needs room for expression and to face his own challenges, or when he needs the structure and control of intervention. I would love to say I have figured that out.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

Selfishly, there is nothing quite like my sons hugs when he arrives home from school every day.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

He loves video games, and he’s at an age where we can actually play together and compete. But on a less regular basis, we are able to explore local river banks and the beaches of Cape Cod which we could do for days on end and is by far our favorite joint activity.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

Actions always speak louder than words, but I’m also a big fan of explaining *why* you make the choices you do. Wisdom comes through the understanding of actions as well.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

I’m “always on” and highly connected. There is no doubt that my phone (an iPhone at the moment) has the largest impact although I rarely use it as a phone. It’s both positive and negative. On the one hand it gives me the flexibility to engage in things I wouldn’t normally be able to do because it keeps me connected to my work life while remote. On the other, I receive over 250 emails per day on average so it means I’m constantly checking it. That becomes so behavioral that I do it when I shouldn’t (family time, dinner, etc.).

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

It shapes just about everything we do in some way. There is no such thing as an “unanswered question” in my household. If a question comes up that someone doesn’t know we’re like some Microsoft commercial screaming “To the cloud!”. Typically my son and I will research together, or sometimes even create a video like here.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

The increasingly exposed lives we lead online I think will make a pronounced shift in the relationships we have offline. Parenting takes on a new dynamic when your children can easily have a lens into your thought processes outside of the context in which they would normally have had in the past. We talk a lot about how online anonymity changes behavior, but few think about how our offline relationships typically have had barriers to transparency in them as well. The breaking down of those barriers in both directions is neither good nor bad, but it does change the way we lead our lives and view those around us. My hope, is that will lead to both men and women having a better understanding of what makes each other tick in the future and lead to more open, successful relationships.

‘Preciate it, Matt!

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Digital Dads Exposed / Scott Stratten

Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature—Scott Stratten, president of UnMarketing.


…father to 9yo UnJunior, as his son is affectionately known…”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

I think we’ve lost our way on what a “man” is. We need to go back to a man meaning someone who held doors open for others, who didn’t mind picking up the tab instead of calculating % of bill on their iPhone, and someone that isn’t afraid to show emotion. I guess I want “gentlemen” to return to the front lines.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

My mom. Because she showed me that pride, loyalty, respect and being the champion defender of your family is genderless.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

Twitter. It’s an instant, 24-hour support system. I can laugh, learn or lean on others and return the favor.

What is your parental philosophy?

Act towards your child how you want them to act towards others.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

That I am one. I’ve gone through both fighting for custody and the passing away of his mother within a few years of each other. I get to be woken up everyday with a hug from him. Nothing in the word compares to that.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

Video games. He’s at an age now (9) that he can hold his own and I don’t have to “let” him win. Now he just wins. Which is awesome and horrible at the same time :) We play XBox 360 and PS3, but also enjoy the time that we do, we talk the whole time, laugh, trash each other. It’s really fun. We also love making mixed CD’s and going for drives to listen to them. I used to intoduce him to all the music, and now he’s the one introducing it to me. I’m so old.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

I think actions are so powerful. The “do as I say not as I do” doesn’t cut it. If you want to impart respect, caring and compassion, act it.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

I recently changed a piece of my tech world, and it changed everything. I turned off audio notifications on my Blackberry a month or so ago. It has changed everything. I’m more in the moment, not jumping like Pavlov’s dog at every beep/chime. Email will always be there, but the moments with your kid won’t. He’ll eventually despise me in his teens, so it will give me plenty of time to Tweet then.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

He’s growing up using an iPad, Touch, laptop, gaming systems, DVR/PVR, HD movies. He can experience artificial things the way we never could. But we have to be careful to not forget the real life things. I’m guilty of that, we are so comfortable enjoying our time at home that I forget soemtimes that there is a whole world out there to explore with him.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

I think parenting in general has shifted somewhat. My mom never had to worry about my facebook profile, or who I was in a chat room with. And in regards to a man’s role, I hope it means we become more present in our children’s lives and be there emotionally, not just physically or financially.

‘Preciate it, Scott!

Learn more about Scott at UnMarketing, Yummy Mummy Club, and follow him on Twitter! Also, be sure to watch Scott at TEDxOakville (below).

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Digital Dads Exposed / Boris Bally

Wednesday, January 12th, 2011

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature Boris Bally—metalsmith, industrial designer, Humanufactured.

“I have two wonderful kids. Both are really into art, and ask wonderfully delicious questions: curious about everything!”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

For better or worse (I would argue better!) contemporary men have been expected to assume so many more responsibilities than the previous generation. Not only is there a pressure to have a good job/ career, we must now also learn to become equal partners on the home/parent front. Because of this, we have to become more flexible with our responsibilities at work (like working women!) I would also argue that men are learning to soften the last generations’ more machismo stereotypical gender roles. In my opinion, modern men are connecting with their kids in different ways than the last generation: we are not only their dads, but also able to become their friends

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

Probably the biggest influence was the artistic/ designer family culture that I grew up in. Both my parents came here from Switzerland and raised me with a serious Swiss work-ethic, uncomparable freedom to do what I wanted and go where I pleased. I was raised very ‘hands-off.’ They supported my artistic endeavors. This also taught me to tackle tough lessons on my own, by allowing me to make my own mistakes. I learned by doing: “Less talk more action..” Through various jobs (paper route, lawn-mowing, carpentry, model-making) I began to appreciate the developing connections with clients, colleagues friends. The career-path I have chosen (metalsmithing) has provided me a constant source of mentors and colleagues. I have always felt a part of my greater global metalsmith family. One definite influence was the requirement, in my senior year at college (CMU/Pittsburgh), for all students to own a PC (specifically the first 128k mac!) I embraced the computer, the ‘new’ culture and managed to keep-up with the exploding ‘digital’ age..which I now rely on for survival.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

I love to swim laps. It is my ‘reset’ button and gives me peace. Sometimes, if we get lucky, Lynn and I swim lovingly together for a hot ‘swim date.’ In colder weather, I love to build a fire in our home’s fireplace. Its an Archetypal, prehistoric ‘manish’ thing. I enjoy cutting up the old, dying trees, gathering and splitting the wood, sparking a fire and tending to it. I am curiously connected to my Neanderthal brethren. It is the essence of ‘man’ that has made us different from the other animals. And in Summer, I love to watch the ocean, especially the drama of an acetylene flame sunrise.. as Lynn and I catch up while we walk our dog, ‘Schoggi’ at our local beach.

What is your parental philosophy?

Children should learn via their parent’s example. In the case of my immediate family, they are not limited by traditional gender roles. We should teach them to learn, to love, to share, to feel safe, and feel okay about occasionally f-ing up …we can gently nudge them in the correct direction when they drift. Like a boat, try to make only minor adjustments at the helm to keep the boat moving forward. Most of all, it is our duty to show them the wonder the world can offer and to help them understand the responsibility of keeping it safe.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

The added dimension of enlarging my perspective of the world around me. The focus is no longer on me, nor on my partner, but rather on all of us. It is truly a gift and I’m sure my heart has grown exponentially. My kids add a dimension to love I would never have been able to understand.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

We love to make ‘stuff’ in the studio together.. we enjoy drawing anytime, anyplace. This weekend, we visited a rock gym with the family and we all had a BLAST. My son Etai, an avid, very able skier has been enjoying one-on-one time skiing with his daddy.. and as soon as my daughter gets a little better at snowboarding (this season?) she will be joining us as well. We love to frolic in the pool and we love to hike and bike together when time permits.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

By example. Wordless inspiration is so much more powerful than lengthy explanations. That said, I have enjoyed driving my son to school (daughter takes the bus) in the morning (alternating with my wife, Lynn). Our morning ‘commuter’ conversations have been an easy way to discuss a wide array of topics and occasional life lessons.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

My PowerPC G4 at work. It is the source of 90% of my daily communication with the world. E-mails impact my business on a minute-by-minute basis. My work day morphs to match the incoming spew of inquiries, requests, queries, orders, letters, opportunities and kid-related/ family-related memos.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

I am conflicted. On one hand, I want the kids to know their way around technology and applaud it. They’ve gotta know this stuff! On the other hand, I am saddened that it is often at the expense of some of life’s most important ‘low-tech’ and hands-on lessons (looking up a word in a dictionary, finding directions by reading a map, learning to build something REAL and lasting) The allure is obvious but the addiction is surreptitious. My family refuses to buy video games such as Wii or X-box. Recently, however, in a moment of weakness I broke-down and bought my son a DS, which I now regret. We did give our kids our outmoded laptops. Of course, the kids have quickly learned how to ‘find’ games in the cyber world.. and we are constantly needing to constrain their usage.. Our kids are now required to log-on to a school site to do homework! …and so now it has become a school-day requirement. With this one exception, during the school week, we have a ‘no electronics’ policy.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

I am optimistic there will be an even easier balance between men and women..perhaps a blurring of outmoded, traditional gender-roles As outlined above, I think we are already heading this way.. More equality in sharing the burdens of running the household, raising the kids, participating in school and ‘bringing home the bacon’ should give way to better understanding and communication. Oh yes, and obviously the intensity of daily living goes up a bunch of notches!

‘Preciate it, Boris!

Boris Bally lives in the West End of Providence, RI with his wonderful wife and two lovely children. Learn more about his Humanufactured efforts at his design site.

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Digital Dads Exposed / Ken Denmead

Wednesday, November 24th, 2010

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature Ken Denmead—editor and publisher for GeekDad.com, and publisher for GeekMom.com.

“I have two boys, ages 11 and 12 (18 mos. apart) who are both showing signs of geekery themselves, much to my satisfaction.”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

Gender and parenting roles have obviously been evolving over the last few decades, for the better I think. Men (and women) have the opportunity to fill a wider variety of roles in society and at home, and it’s more acceptable for them to take a larger, more emotionally satisfying part in their children’s upbringing. Dual-income families take away the pressure on the man to fulfill the traditional lone provider role (though of course, there are different challenges created by both parents working), allowing for a more team-centric approach to the family and parenting.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

Television, movies, books, and obviously my own father were my biggest influences. Watching the change in gender roles over the last 40 years has been truly fascinating, and seeing many stereotypes fall by the wayside (and some hold on tenaciously) has given me great insight into my own place as a husband and father. Sometimes you have to be the leader, sometimes you have to be willing to be lead. Help where you can, do the things you’re good at, and accept that there will always be things you can improve about yourself.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

When there’s time, video games.

What is your parental philosophy?

Reasoned discussion will always do more to revised behavior in the long-term than shouting. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t times when controlled emotion must be used to emphasize a point, but kids are generally smart and want to understand the reasons behind the rules set down for them.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

Being able to help my kids deal with issues effectively that I had more trouble with when I was their age. And then being able to crow about them when they do great things.

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

I love to be able to share something with them that I love – a book or game – and have them end up finding the same joy in it that I do.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

Appeal to their common sense. Talking is always better than yelling.

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

My iPhone. It’s a double-edged sword, of course. It keeps me in touch with everything going on in my life and magnifies my productivity, but I always have to be careful not to let it disconnect me from my surroundings.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

Technology is a huge part of our lives. it’s obvious that having a close connection to technology will allow my boys to be more comfortable with what will come down the road in the future – will help them in their lives as they have to adapt to the even more amazing things yet to come.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

While there will always be a wide diversity, I think and hope that as husbands and fathers, the trend is towards even greater levels of partnership with our spouses. We’ll still be “guys,” but the artificial disconnects created by traditional gender roles will fade significantly. Husbands and wives should be able to be best friends as well. Dads should be able to be nurturing parents. Moms can be the breadwinners and dads the stay-at-home professionals.

‘Preciate it, Ken!

Be sure to check out more at GeekDad on WIRED and GeekMom!

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Digital Dads Exposed / Erik Proulx

Wednesday, October 27th, 2010

Digital Dads Exposed is a monthly interview series that highlights the unique perspectives on manhood and fatherhood held by those we at Digital Dads have come across in our travels. This month, we feature Erik Proulx—writer and director of Lemonade and Lemonade:Detroit.

“Writer, Director and Father of Ben and Clara, living in Melrose, MA—the northern gateway to the northern gateway of Boston”

What is your perspective on what it means to be a man living in todays world?

There’s all this discussion lately about what a man “should” be. Is it better to be sensitive and caring or macho and silent? Is a stay-at-home dad a real man, or should he be out slaughtering bison? It’s not real clear, to which I say, awesome. I’m thrilled to have the latitude to define my own masculinity. Step off, societal norms.

Growing up, what has influenced you the most and shaped the man that you are today?

By far, the absence of my own father. He died when I was 12, and I didn’t know him before that. Not having him around has informed nearly everything I do as a man and father.

In the moments you are able to pause and reflect, what activity do you normally gravitate towards?

I tend to do most of my introspection while exercising. I can solve a lot over a three-mile run.

What is your parental philosophy?

Be the person I want my kids to become. It’s not always easy. I catch myself espousing “do as I say, not as I do” more than I’d like. But I think I’m pretty conscious of it, so it’s a start.

What do you appreciate the most about being a father?

Being able to learn from my kids. They embody purity and creativity. Sometimes when we tell other people to “grow up,” we’re getting it wrong. We should be saying “be more childlike.”

What is your favorite activity (or activities) to do with your children?

My favorite activity is to do nothing with them. I enjoy lounging and connecting. I think this post explains it pretty well.

What is the best way for a man and father to impart wisdom to his children?

This sounds repetitive and, to a point, cliche. But the best way for me to impart wisdom on my children is to lead by example and be the person I want them to emulate. How can I expect my children to be loving, honest, and present unless I am those things to them?

What piece of technology impacts you most during the day (and is that impact positive or negative)?

Social media (twitter/facebook, etc) is both the most positive and negative technology in my workday. It’s such a valuable tool, yet is an incredible time suck. I am yet to master the discipline necessary to be efficient with the various mediums in the socialsphere.

How does technology shape the way you raise and influence your children?

We try very hard to limit “screen time” to less than two hours a day. That includes the Leapster, computers, TV, and anything else with an electronic screen. Being stuck inside in a rainy day can change all that drastically, but that’s our ideal.

We’re also holding off on the more serious gaming technology as long as we can. But the outside influences are strong.

How do you think men’s roles will change in the future?

That’s hard to answer. I feel like there’s a lot of “man’s man” retaliation to the “sensitive man” binary that was created after the women’s movement. I’m more in the “live and let live” camp. Who cares, really, what other men are doing? Just be the dad, man, and person you want to be, and to hell with what everyone else thinks.

‘Preciate it, Eric!

Follow @Eproulx and be sure to check out Lemonade, the movie and the trailer for Lemonade:Detroit.

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