Comments on: Dealing as Dad in Divorce PT 2: The Conversation & the Second Hardest Thing You Will Do in Your Life

By: BZ

BZ — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 13:22:00 +0000

I’m tearing up reading this post, because in short time my wife and I will be having this talk with our two daughters, and all of the emotions in this article I’m now going through myself. This decision is not my choice, it’s been thrust upon me by her. I know it’ll be better for me on the other side, but I get sick to my stomach every time I think about how this is going to affect my girls. Thanks so much for the article.

By: TC

TC — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 02:37:25 +0000

Thank you for writing this– I just stumbled on to it. Today is the one year anniversary of me moving out of the house. I know it was necessary, I know it became unavoidable, but I don't know that I'll every forgive her or myself for putting our kids through it.

By: Co-Parenting Manager

Co-Parenting Manager — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:44:00 +0000

Thanks Marcus for sharing the planner at http://4help.to/kids! Kids I'm sure will benefit from this.

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:11:37 +0000

Great advice for our relationship with our children, divorce or not!

Thanks for posting.

By: Marcus

Marcus — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 11:27:58 +0000

Well, for me, getting a divorce really needs a lot of planning. Also you couples should take into consideration on what would their kids feel about it. Some planners and organizes that help in the recovery are also very helpful. When me and my wife divorced, I let my kids use this c-planner-manager planner from http://4help.to/children. And there was no doubt that they helped my kids.

Regards,
Marcus

By: Nicola Baume

Nicola Baume — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 09:53:13 +0000

Great Post, really well expressed.

By: Joe

Joe — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 08:48:22 +0000

This hit home. I'm in tears right now. We just had this conversation last night. I'm so worried about my son and how he deals with this. You're right, this was the single hardest thing I have had to do as a father. I dreaded this conversation all day.

By: sass

sass — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 08:32:13 +0000

We had the conversation 8 years ago and, for whatever reason, chose to have “the talk” with our kids, then ages 10, 11 and 13, at a local restaurant. Just this week my oldest son, now 21, and I, passed by that restaurant together. Out of the blue he turned to me and told me he had not been there since that fateful night when his mom and I shared the worst news a child can hear. Holding back my emotions, I realized that I had not ever returned to that restaurant either, and looking at my son, we both knew that neither of us would ever go there again…

Hang in there. Sounds like you are taking the best approach to an awkward and difficult time. As long as parents remain parents and put the love and care of their kids above all else and before their own differences, it can all work out in the end.

By: C.C. Chapman

C.C. Chapman — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:34:13 +0000

I'm SO glad you continued this series.

Thankfully, I've never been through this,but I can feel the emotions and pain just from reading this.

One point I FULLY agree with you on is the fact that every child needs their Dad and too often the courts don't recognize that importance and it kills me to see it every time it happens!