Comments on: I Have a Penis = I Am Not a Mom http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/ The mancave of the Internet, where a Dad can be a Guy. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:58:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rachel Happe http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1838 Rachel Happe Mon, 03 Jan 2011 17:27:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1838 It's a great point and the funny thing is, I just had a similar reaction because our town library's only Saturday programs are 'Dad and me' events... with the implicit assumption that moms can make the 'normal' programs during the week. There are still SO many events planned and scheduled around 'traditional' roles and schedules and yet... I don't know too many people for whom that works any longer, for Dad or Mom. It’s a great point and the funny thing is, I just had a similar reaction because our town library’s only Saturday programs are ‘Dad and me’ events… with the implicit assumption that moms can make the ‘normal’ programs during the week. There are still SO many events planned and scheduled around ‘traditional’ roles and schedules and yet… I don’t know too many people for whom that works any longer, for Dad or Mom.

]]> By: Tara Coomans http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1820 Tara Coomans Tue, 28 Dec 2010 23:30:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1820 Nicely put. I don't think its too much to ask to be acknowledged as a seperate group, with different interests. Maybe its this millennium's "equal rights" show down? =) Nicely put. I don’t think its too much to ask to be acknowledged as a seperate group, with different interests. Maybe its this millennium’s “equal rights” show down? =)

]]> By: Tara Coomans http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1821 Tara Coomans Tue, 28 Dec 2010 23:30:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1821 Nicely put. I don't think its too much to ask to be acknowledged as a seperate group, with different interests. Maybe its this millennium's "equal rights" show down? =) Nicely put. I don’t think its too much to ask to be acknowledged as a seperate group, with different interests. Maybe its this millennium’s “equal rights” show down? =)

]]> By: Casey Rhodes http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-564 Casey Rhodes Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:40:37 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-564 Well put. Recently I blogged about a book babies group that meets at the library once a month. Usually I have to work, but sometimes I get a chance to go in place of my wife. I have a great time, but in my last three visits, I have been the only dad there. It doesn't bother me at all. It's quality fun time with my child. Who wouldn't want that? I just feel sad for all the dads who can't 'man up' and join groups like that. Are all men perpetually busy at the same time? Doubt it. I wonder if it's partly a little bit about what you're talking about, how events like this are catered towards moms. Perhaps the dads feel they are not welcome? Hard to say. Either way, I'd like to see more dads. Well put. Recently I blogged about a book babies group that meets at the library once a month. Usually I have to work, but sometimes I get a chance to go in place of my wife. I have a great time, but in my last three visits, I have been the only dad there. It doesn't bother me at all. It's quality fun time with my child. Who wouldn't want that? I just feel sad for all the dads who can't 'man up' and join groups like that. Are all men perpetually busy at the same time? Doubt it. I wonder if it's partly a little bit about what you're talking about, how events like this are catered towards moms. Perhaps the dads feel they are not welcome? Hard to say. Either way, I'd like to see more dads.

]]> By: Christy http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-549 Christy Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:41:37 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-549 As I was reading this post, I was thinking that it sounded just like CC. And so it was. =} I have mixed feelings on this topic. On the one hand, women have been marginalized for generations and are only starting to get equal treatment. And, although you were welcome to attend the Disney conference, you weren't really invited (you requested an invitation) and it's not necessarily geared toward you. It seems a bit petty to complain that it's not all about you (as a man), when that's so often the norm. On the other hand, I think men need to step it up in the parenting department (and women need to let them). And when you do (as you obviously are), you should be treated equally with moms. I am most certainly an advocate for equal/shared parenting. In the end, I think there is a much bigger issue at play. How many of you assumed that your wife would take your last name when you got married? Did you know that men have to pay to have their names changed, where women don't? How many men step back to let their wife parent, only "helping out" by "babysitting" now and again? Are you out advocating for better policies in office settings so that women who take time off to have a baby aren't penalized? The world is not a "fair" place. And, while I think it should be, I think we have much bigger battles to fight than the inclusion of dads in an event geared towards women. I've said this to you before, and I'm saying it again. Get over it and go where you want to go. By joining in groups and showing that you bring something important to the table, you'll enact change. It's what women have had to do for centuries and I can't feel all that bad that men are now learning how that feels. If we had all done what you're doing now ("I won't go if it doesn't say 'Dads' in the title"), we wouldn't be able to vote or get a job today. And this is, of course, coming from someone who changed the name of my parenting group (still in the works) to be more inclusive specifically because I knew that you would refuse to join otherwise... As I was reading this post, I was thinking that it sounded just like CC. And so it was. =}

I have mixed feelings on this topic. On the one hand, women have been marginalized for generations and are only starting to get equal treatment. And, although you were welcome to attend the Disney conference, you weren’t really invited (you requested an invitation) and it’s not necessarily geared toward you. It seems a bit petty to complain that it’s not all about you (as a man), when that’s so often the norm.

On the other hand, I think men need to step it up in the parenting department (and women need to let them). And when you do (as you obviously are), you should be treated equally with moms. I am most certainly an advocate for equal/shared parenting.

In the end, I think there is a much bigger issue at play. How many of you assumed that your wife would take your last name when you got married? Did you know that men have to pay to have their names changed, where women don’t? How many men step back to let their wife parent, only “helping out” by “babysitting” now and again? Are you out advocating for better policies in office settings so that women who take time off to have a baby aren’t penalized? The world is not a “fair” place. And, while I think it should be, I think we have much bigger battles to fight than the inclusion of dads in an event geared towards women.

I’ve said this to you before, and I’m saying it again. Get over it and go where you want to go. By joining in groups and showing that you bring something important to the table, you’ll enact change. It’s what women have had to do for centuries and I can’t feel all that bad that men are now learning how that feels. If we had all done what you’re doing now (“I won’t go if it doesn’t say ‘Dads’ in the title”), we wouldn’t be able to vote or get a job today.

And this is, of course, coming from someone who changed the name of my parenting group (still in the works) to be more inclusive specifically because I knew that you would refuse to join otherwise…

]]> By: Christy http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1456 Christy Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:41:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1456 As I was reading this post, I was thinking that it sounded just like CC. And so it was. =} I have mixed feelings on this topic. On the one hand, women have been marginalized for generations and are only starting to get equal treatment. And, although you were welcome to attend the Disney conference, you weren't really invited (you requested an invitation) and it's not necessarily geared toward you. It seems a bit petty to complain that it's not all about you (as a man), when that's so often the norm. On the other hand, I think men need to step it up in the parenting department (and women need to let them). And when you do (as you obviously are), you should be treated equally with moms. I am most certainly an advocate for equal/shared parenting. In the end, I think there is a much bigger issue at play. How many of you assumed that your wife would take your last name when you got married? Did you know that men have to pay to have their names changed, where women don't? How many men step back to let their wife parent, only "helping out" by "babysitting" now and again? Are you out advocating for better policies in office settings so that women who take time off to have a baby aren't penalized? The world is not a "fair" place. And, while I think it should be, I think we have much bigger battles to fight than the inclusion of dads in an event geared towards women. I've said this to you before, and I'm saying it again. Get over it and go where you want to go. By joining in groups and showing that you bring something important to the table, you'll enact change. It's what women have had to do for centuries and I can't feel all that bad that men are now learning how that feels. If we had all done what you're doing now ("I won't go if it doesn't say 'Dads' in the title"), we wouldn't be able to vote or get a job today. And this is, of course, coming from someone who changed the name of my parenting group (still in the works) to be more inclusive specifically because I knew that you would refuse to join otherwise... As I was reading this post, I was thinking that it sounded just like CC. And so it was. =}

I have mixed feelings on this topic. On the one hand, women have been marginalized for generations and are only starting to get equal treatment. And, although you were welcome to attend the Disney conference, you weren’t really invited (you requested an invitation) and it’s not necessarily geared toward you. It seems a bit petty to complain that it’s not all about you (as a man), when that’s so often the norm.

On the other hand, I think men need to step it up in the parenting department (and women need to let them). And when you do (as you obviously are), you should be treated equally with moms. I am most certainly an advocate for equal/shared parenting.

In the end, I think there is a much bigger issue at play. How many of you assumed that your wife would take your last name when you got married? Did you know that men have to pay to have their names changed, where women don’t? How many men step back to let their wife parent, only “helping out” by “babysitting” now and again? Are you out advocating for better policies in office settings so that women who take time off to have a baby aren’t penalized? The world is not a “fair” place. And, while I think it should be, I think we have much bigger battles to fight than the inclusion of dads in an event geared towards women.

I’ve said this to you before, and I’m saying it again. Get over it and go where you want to go. By joining in groups and showing that you bring something important to the table, you’ll enact change. It’s what women have had to do for centuries and I can’t feel all that bad that men are now learning how that feels. If we had all done what you’re doing now (“I won’t go if it doesn’t say ‘Dads’ in the title”), we wouldn’t be able to vote or get a job today.

And this is, of course, coming from someone who changed the name of my parenting group (still in the works) to be more inclusive specifically because I knew that you would refuse to join otherwise…

]]> By: Kevin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-542 Kevin Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:09:03 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-542 CC I think you make an excellent point. We are a different generation and we are Dads and We are Here. It's foolish for companies to ignor it. Even if mom's control the checkbook for many purchases, we are the ones that tend to make or finalize the big purchases decision. We also are active in our kids lives. In a Survey I'm conducting at TheDADvocateProject.com Dads are spending on average 3 hrs per weekday and 8-12 hrs per day on weekends with their kids. We are there and active. I look forward to getting to know you and the other DigitalDads better over the comming months. CC I think you make an excellent point. We are a different generation and we are Dads and We are Here. It’s foolish for companies to ignor it. Even if mom’s control the checkbook for many purchases, we are the ones that tend to make or finalize the big purchases decision. We also are active in our kids lives. In a Survey I’m conducting at TheDADvocateProject.com Dads are spending on average 3 hrs per weekday and 8-12 hrs per day on weekends with their kids. We are there and active.

I look forward to getting to know you and the other DigitalDads better over the comming months.

]]> By: Kevin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1455 Kevin Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:09:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1455 CC I think you make an excellent point. We are a different generation and we are Dads and We are Here. It's foolish for companies to ignor it. Even if mom's control the checkbook for many purchases, we are the ones that tend to make or finalize the big purchases decision. We also are active in our kids lives. In a Survey I'm conducting at TheDADvocateProject.com Dads are spending on average 3 hrs per weekday and 8-12 hrs per day on weekends with their kids. We are there and active. I look forward to getting to know you and the other DigitalDads better over the comming months. CC I think you make an excellent point. We are a different generation and we are Dads and We are Here. It’s foolish for companies to ignor it. Even if mom’s control the checkbook for many purchases, we are the ones that tend to make or finalize the big purchases decision. We also are active in our kids lives. In a Survey I’m conducting at TheDADvocateProject.com Dads are spending on average 3 hrs per weekday and 8-12 hrs per day on weekends with their kids. We are there and active.

I look forward to getting to know you and the other DigitalDads better over the comming months.

]]> By: SparkDad http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-540 SparkDad Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:41:23 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-540 I agree with you! The worst thing I have been called is Mr. Mom. I scold everyone that calls me that. I am, as you said, a Man! I was also given a hard time regarding staying home with the kids and taking care of the house by my friends. I think that they are over it now and can see that just because I am not going to a JOB that my work is hard and takes all of the organization and effort that their jobs do! Talk to you soon! SparkDad www.sparkdad.com I agree with you! The worst thing I have been called is Mr. Mom. I scold everyone that calls me that. I am, as you said, a Man! I was also given a hard time regarding staying home with the kids and taking care of the house by my friends.

I think that they are over it now and can see that just because I am not going to a JOB that my work is hard and takes all of the organization and effort that their jobs do!

Talk to you soon!

SparkDad
http://www.sparkdad.com

]]> By: SparkDad http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1454 SparkDad Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:41:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1454 I agree with you! The worst thing I have been called is Mr. Mom. I scold everyone that calls me that. I am, as you said, a Man! I was also given a hard time regarding staying home with the kids and taking care of the house by my friends. I think that they are over it now and can see that just because I am not going to a JOB that my work is hard and takes all of the organization and effort that their jobs do! Talk to you soon! SparkDad www.sparkdad.com I agree with you! The worst thing I have been called is Mr. Mom. I scold everyone that calls me that. I am, as you said, a Man! I was also given a hard time regarding staying home with the kids and taking care of the house by my friends.

I think that they are over it now and can see that just because I am not going to a JOB that my work is hard and takes all of the organization and effort that their jobs do!

Talk to you soon!

SparkDad
http://www.sparkdad.com

]]> By: Judy Brook http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-534 Judy Brook Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:37:35 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-534 I'm a single mum and my brother was divorced and had custody of his daughter. From when she was conceived all he thought about was being a good dad. Our father died when he was 6 years old. Not having the father image to grow up with was missing all his life. Being a dad was the proudest time of his life, he was consumed by his daughter his wife wasn't the motherly type, so left her daughter in day care and took of interstate with a trucker. After divorce he raised his daughter and became Mr. Mum. That child never missed out on anything from 2 aunties and her dad she survived and did very well. My brother joined a support group in Australia for dads and became very active in that. He became a grandfather and mainly did the same to assist his single daughter to be a good mum. So today its not whats between your legs that makes a person a godd mum or dad its whats in the other end - the Head and heart. Good luck to all those dads they deserve the recongnition they souley deserve! I’m a single mum and my brother was divorced and had custody of his daughter. From when she was conceived all he thought about was being a good dad. Our father died when he was 6 years old. Not having the father image to grow up with was missing all his life. Being a dad was the proudest time of his life, he was consumed by his daughter his wife wasn’t the motherly type, so left her daughter in day care and took of interstate with a trucker. After divorce he raised his daughter and became Mr. Mum. That child never missed out on anything from 2 aunties and her dad she survived and did very well. My brother joined a support group in Australia for dads and became very active in that. He became a grandfather and mainly did the same to assist his single daughter to be a good mum. So today its not whats between your legs that makes a person a godd mum or dad its whats in the other end – the Head and heart. Good luck to all those dads they deserve the recongnition they souley deserve!

]]> By: Judy Brook http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1453 Judy Brook Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:37:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1453 I'm a single mum and my brother was divorced and had custody of his daughter. From when she was conceived all he thought about was being a good dad. Our father died when he was 6 years old. Not having the father image to grow up with was missing all his life. Being a dad was the proudest time of his life, he was consumed by his daughter his wife wasn't the motherly type, so left her daughter in day care and took of interstate with a trucker. After divorce he raised his daughter and became Mr. Mum. That child never missed out on anything from 2 aunties and her dad she survived and did very well. My brother joined a support group in Australia for dads and became very active in that. He became a grandfather and mainly did the same to assist his single daughter to be a good mum. So today its not whats between your legs that makes a person a godd mum or dad its whats in the other end - the Head and heart. Good luck to all those dads they deserve the recongnition they souley deserve! I’m a single mum and my brother was divorced and had custody of his daughter. From when she was conceived all he thought about was being a good dad. Our father died when he was 6 years old. Not having the father image to grow up with was missing all his life. Being a dad was the proudest time of his life, he was consumed by his daughter his wife wasn’t the motherly type, so left her daughter in day care and took of interstate with a trucker. After divorce he raised his daughter and became Mr. Mum. That child never missed out on anything from 2 aunties and her dad she survived and did very well. My brother joined a support group in Australia for dads and became very active in that. He became a grandfather and mainly did the same to assist his single daughter to be a good mum. So today its not whats between your legs that makes a person a godd mum or dad its whats in the other end – the Head and heart. Good luck to all those dads they deserve the recongnition they souley deserve!

]]> By: DCUrbanDad http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-533 DCUrbanDad Mon, 11 Jan 2010 20:25:46 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-533 Last summer a few dads and I got our BOB strollers and our kids and went running each Sunday am. All the other Moms out there would "Woot" at us as if what we were doing was curing Cancer. I loved the attention, but I was not doing anything special. Just being a parent. Being involved. Last summer a few dads and I got our BOB strollers and our kids and went running each Sunday am. All the other Moms out there would “Woot” at us as if what we were doing was curing Cancer. I loved the attention, but I was not doing anything special. Just being a parent. Being involved.

]]> By: DCUrbanDad http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1452 DCUrbanDad Mon, 11 Jan 2010 20:25:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1452 Last summer a few dads and I got our BOB strollers and our kids and went running each Sunday am. All the other Moms out there would "Woot" at us as if what we were doing was curing Cancer. I loved the attention, but I was not doing anything special. Just being a parent. Being involved. Last summer a few dads and I got our BOB strollers and our kids and went running each Sunday am. All the other Moms out there would “Woot” at us as if what we were doing was curing Cancer. I loved the attention, but I was not doing anything special. Just being a parent. Being involved.

]]> By: Kat Gordon http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-530 Kat Gordon Sat, 09 Jan 2010 18:07:23 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-530 Right on, C.C.! And both men and women will benefit once advertisers let go of outdated notions about parenting roles. I blogged recently about how moms are in the workforce like never before -- with the same % of women working regardless of whether they had children or not (excluding infants)-- yet advertising always depicts the Stay-at-Home-Mom, both visually and in copy. Keep the bullhorn on, C.C. We need to spread the word that parenting is genderless. Right on, C.C.! And both men and women will benefit once advertisers let go of outdated notions about parenting roles. I blogged recently about how moms are in the workforce like never before — with the same % of women working regardless of whether they had children or not (excluding infants)– yet advertising always depicts the Stay-at-Home-Mom, both visually and in copy. Keep the bullhorn on, C.C. We need to spread the word that parenting is genderless.

]]> By: Kat Gordon http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1451 Kat Gordon Sat, 09 Jan 2010 18:07:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1451 Right on, C.C.! And both men and women will benefit once advertisers let go of outdated notions about parenting roles. I blogged recently about how moms are in the workforce like never before -- with the same % of women working regardless of whether they had children or not (excluding infants)-- yet advertising always depicts the Stay-at-Home-Mom, both visually and in copy. Keep the bullhorn on, C.C. We need to spread the word that parenting is genderless. Right on, C.C.! And both men and women will benefit once advertisers let go of outdated notions about parenting roles. I blogged recently about how moms are in the workforce like never before — with the same % of women working regardless of whether they had children or not (excluding infants)– yet advertising always depicts the Stay-at-Home-Mom, both visually and in copy. Keep the bullhorn on, C.C. We need to spread the word that parenting is genderless.

]]> By: Jim @smashadv http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-529 Jim @smashadv Sat, 09 Jan 2010 17:48:30 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-529 I was raised by my mother and grandmother, with three sisters and no brothers. I am now married with two daughters, two bitch dogs and a live-in mother in-law. I'm lucky to even have a penis, but you know what? My daughters love me in ways that they don't love anyone else. Not because I have a penis, but because I am a man with callouses on my hands and gruff on my face and yet softness in my heart. Gender is a strange delineator. There's a lot we can learn from each other - still. I was raised by my mother and grandmother, with three sisters and no brothers. I am now married with two daughters, two bitch dogs and a live-in mother in-law. I’m lucky to even have a penis, but you know what? My daughters love me in ways that they don’t love anyone else. Not because I have a penis, but because I am a man with callouses on my hands and gruff on my face and yet softness in my heart. Gender is a strange delineator. There’s a lot we can learn from each other – still.

]]> By: Jim @smashadv http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1450 Jim @smashadv Sat, 09 Jan 2010 17:48:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1450 I was raised by my mother and grandmother, with three sisters and no brothers. I am now married with two daughters, two bitch dogs and a live-in mother in-law. I'm lucky to even have a penis, but you know what? My daughters love me in ways that they don't love anyone else. Not because I have a penis, but because I am a man with callouses on my hands and gruff on my face and yet softness in my heart. Gender is a strange delineator. There's a lot we can learn from each other - still. I was raised by my mother and grandmother, with three sisters and no brothers. I am now married with two daughters, two bitch dogs and a live-in mother in-law. I’m lucky to even have a penis, but you know what? My daughters love me in ways that they don’t love anyone else. Not because I have a penis, but because I am a man with callouses on my hands and gruff on my face and yet softness in my heart. Gender is a strange delineator. There’s a lot we can learn from each other – still.

]]> By: Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-528 Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) Sat, 09 Jan 2010 00:18:22 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-528 Interesting that today's society is advanced and accepts the IDEA of new parenting roles, but Marketing is still back in the 50's! I guess C.C. is really asking us to answer the question: WHAT IS A MOM, WHAT IS A DAD? and what's the difference? I'm just glad that we've gone up the scale from "WEEK-END, or DEADBEAT" Interesting that today’s society is advanced and accepts the IDEA of new parenting roles, but Marketing is still back in the 50′s!

I guess C.C. is really asking us to answer the question: WHAT IS A MOM, WHAT IS A DAD? and what’s the difference?

I’m just glad that we’ve gone up the scale from “WEEK-END, or DEADBEAT”

]]> By: Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1449 Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) Sat, 09 Jan 2010 00:18:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1449 Interesting that today's society is advanced and accepts the IDEA of new parenting roles, but Marketing is still back in the 50's! I guess C.C. is really asking us to answer the question: WHAT IS A MOM, WHAT IS A DAD? and what's the difference? I'm just glad that we've gone up the scale from "WEEK-END, or DEADBEAT" Interesting that today’s society is advanced and accepts the IDEA of new parenting roles, but Marketing is still back in the 50′s!

I guess C.C. is really asking us to answer the question: WHAT IS A MOM, WHAT IS A DAD? and what’s the difference?

I’m just glad that we’ve gone up the scale from “WEEK-END, or DEADBEAT”

]]> By: Whit http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-526 Whit Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:04:11 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-526 I've been saying this for years. It's very frustrating. I’ve been saying this for years. It’s very frustrating.

]]> By: Whit http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-1448 Whit Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:04:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1448 I've been saying this for years. It's very frustrating. I’ve been saying this for years. It’s very frustrating.

]]> By: Jason Falls http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-2/#comment-525 Jason Falls Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:48:34 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-525 No disagreement, sir. Just wanted to ensure the readers had the marketing decision side of the aisle fodder to think about, too. It's easy to read your post and (rightfully) think, "Yeah! I'm a dad and I matter, too!" But then we start acting like the faction of mommy bloggers that are whiny and nuts. (Little sarcasm mixed in there, of course .. heh.) It would be smarter to include fathers. No doubt. No disagreement, sir. Just wanted to ensure the readers had the marketing decision side of the aisle fodder to think about, too. It’s easy to read your post and (rightfully) think, “Yeah! I’m a dad and I matter, too!” But then we start acting like the faction of mommy bloggers that are whiny and nuts. (Little sarcasm mixed in there, of course .. heh.)

It would be smarter to include fathers. No doubt.

]]> By: Jason Falls http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1447 Jason Falls Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:48:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1447 No disagreement, sir. Just wanted to ensure the readers had the marketing decision side of the aisle fodder to think about, too. It's easy to read your post and (rightfully) think, "Yeah! I'm a dad and I matter, too!" But then we start acting like the faction of mommy bloggers that are whiny and nuts. (Little sarcasm mixed in there, of course .. heh.) It would be smarter to include fathers. No doubt. No disagreement, sir. Just wanted to ensure the readers had the marketing decision side of the aisle fodder to think about, too. It’s easy to read your post and (rightfully) think, “Yeah! I’m a dad and I matter, too!” But then we start acting like the faction of mommy bloggers that are whiny and nuts. (Little sarcasm mixed in there, of course .. heh.)

It would be smarter to include fathers. No doubt.

]]> By: C.C. http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-524 C.C. Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:42:50 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-524 I knew I should have left out the word "Disney" when I wrote this because they are not the problem here. I agree with you Jason that from a marketing perspective marketing to moms is a VERY smart move. They are vocal, they are active and they have money to spend and the decision power to spend it. On all fronts that is smart. I just firmly believe that it would be smarter to include fathers as well. I knew I should have left out the word “Disney” when I wrote this because they are not the problem here.

I agree with you Jason that from a marketing perspective marketing to moms is a VERY smart move. They are vocal, they are active and they have money to spend and the decision power to spend it. On all fronts that is smart.

I just firmly believe that it would be smarter to include fathers as well.

]]> By: C.C. http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1446 C.C. Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:42:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1446 I knew I should have left out the word "Disney" when I wrote this because they are not the problem here. I agree with you Jason that from a marketing perspective marketing to moms is a VERY smart move. They are vocal, they are active and they have money to spend and the decision power to spend it. On all fronts that is smart. I just firmly believe that it would be smarter to include fathers as well. I knew I should have left out the word “Disney” when I wrote this because they are not the problem here.

I agree with you Jason that from a marketing perspective marketing to moms is a VERY smart move. They are vocal, they are active and they have money to spend and the decision power to spend it. On all fronts that is smart.

I just firmly believe that it would be smarter to include fathers as well.

]]> By: Jason Falls http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-523 Jason Falls Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:35:26 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-523 I'll offer a bit of push back here ... though I really do agree with your points and think the right approach would have been for Disney to have a dad approach catered to "daddy bloggers" or folks like you who reached out. The simple fact of the matter is that, from a marketing perspective, Mommy Bloggers not only outnumber their male counterparts by four or five times, but women hold 80 percent of the buying decisions in the American household. Is Disney's targeting lacking sensitivity to the male side of the aisle? Yep. Is it still smart marketing? Yep. As you well know, even with targeted outreach the best approach is to target the audience that will produce the biggest impact. Disney is targeting the 80 percent buying decisions, 60 percent of all web users audience. It's not personal (which makes it less "social") but it is smart business. Make sense? (Realistically, as a company that big with those resources, though, they should have a male or combined effort.) I’ll offer a bit of push back here … though I really do agree with your points and think the right approach would have been for Disney to have a dad approach catered to “daddy bloggers” or folks like you who reached out.

The simple fact of the matter is that, from a marketing perspective, Mommy Bloggers not only outnumber their male counterparts by four or five times, but women hold 80 percent of the buying decisions in the American household. Is Disney’s targeting lacking sensitivity to the male side of the aisle? Yep. Is it still smart marketing? Yep.

As you well know, even with targeted outreach the best approach is to target the audience that will produce the biggest impact. Disney is targeting the 80 percent buying decisions, 60 percent of all web users audience. It’s not personal (which makes it less “social”) but it is smart business.

Make sense?

(Realistically, as a company that big with those resources, though, they should have a male or combined effort.)

]]> By: Jason Falls http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1445 Jason Falls Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:35:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1445 I'll offer a bit of push back here ... though I really do agree with your points and think the right approach would have been for Disney to have a dad approach catered to "daddy bloggers" or folks like you who reached out. The simple fact of the matter is that, from a marketing perspective, Mommy Bloggers not only outnumber their male counterparts by four or five times, but women hold 80 percent of the buying decisions in the American household. Is Disney's targeting lacking sensitivity to the male side of the aisle? Yep. Is it still smart marketing? Yep. As you well know, even with targeted outreach the best approach is to target the audience that will produce the biggest impact. Disney is targeting the 80 percent buying decisions, 60 percent of all web users audience. It's not personal (which makes it less "social") but it is smart business. Make sense? (Realistically, as a company that big with those resources, though, they should have a male or combined effort.) I’ll offer a bit of push back here … though I really do agree with your points and think the right approach would have been for Disney to have a dad approach catered to “daddy bloggers” or folks like you who reached out.

The simple fact of the matter is that, from a marketing perspective, Mommy Bloggers not only outnumber their male counterparts by four or five times, but women hold 80 percent of the buying decisions in the American household. Is Disney’s targeting lacking sensitivity to the male side of the aisle? Yep. Is it still smart marketing? Yep.

As you well know, even with targeted outreach the best approach is to target the audience that will produce the biggest impact. Disney is targeting the 80 percent buying decisions, 60 percent of all web users audience. It’s not personal (which makes it less “social”) but it is smart business.

Make sense?

(Realistically, as a company that big with those resources, though, they should have a male or combined effort.)

]]> By: Todd Defren http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-522 Todd Defren Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:33:58 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-522 Say, I have one o' those plumbing tools, too! ;) Last night, at 11:04pm EST, I helped my 17-year-old son finish off and press SUBMIT on his first round of college applications. Involved, important: Dad. But I don't mind the skewing of marketers towards mombloggers, frankly. Leaves me the peace and quiet I desire to play video games, drink beer, watch baseball, and look at dirty pictures. Let the moms have their online fun. Cheekily, TD Say, I have one o’ those plumbing tools, too! ;)

Last night, at 11:04pm EST, I helped my 17-year-old son finish off and press SUBMIT on his first round of college applications. Involved, important: Dad.

But I don’t mind the skewing of marketers towards mombloggers, frankly. Leaves me the peace and quiet I desire to play video games, drink beer, watch baseball, and look at dirty pictures. Let the moms have their online fun.

Cheekily,
TD

]]> By: Todd Defren http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1444 Todd Defren Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:33:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1444 Say, I have one o' those plumbing tools, too! ;) Last night, at 11:04pm EST, I helped my 17-year-old son finish off and press SUBMIT on his first round of college applications. Involved, important: Dad. But I don't mind the skewing of marketers towards mombloggers, frankly. Leaves me the peace and quiet I desire to play video games, drink beer, watch baseball, and look at dirty pictures. Let the moms have their online fun. Cheekily, TD Say, I have one o’ those plumbing tools, too! ;)

Last night, at 11:04pm EST, I helped my 17-year-old son finish off and press SUBMIT on his first round of college applications. Involved, important: Dad.

But I don’t mind the skewing of marketers towards mombloggers, frankly. Leaves me the peace and quiet I desire to play video games, drink beer, watch baseball, and look at dirty pictures. Let the moms have their online fun.

Cheekily,
TD

]]> By: Justin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Justin Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:15:13 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-521 I work from home. I AM daycare for my son. Snow day yesterday. My day with him. I get the comment all the time "You off today". After over 9 years of "being off" it doesn't bug me as much. I don't mind standing in line with the blue hairs at the post office (sorry if you're blue haired). I don't have anything ground breaking to add I just wanted to say I'm my son's Father. Great post! I work from home. I AM daycare for my son. Snow day yesterday. My day with him. I get the comment all the time “You off today”. After over 9 years of “being off” it doesn’t bug me as much. I don’t mind standing in line with the blue hairs at the post office (sorry if you’re blue haired). I don’t have anything ground breaking to add I just wanted to say I’m my son’s Father. Great post!

]]> By: Justin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1443 Justin Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:15:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1443 I work from home. I AM daycare for my son. Snow day yesterday. My day with him. I get the comment all the time "You off today". After over 9 years of "being off" it doesn't bug me as much. I don't mind standing in line with the blue hairs at the post office (sorry if you're blue haired). I don't have anything ground breaking to add I just wanted to say I'm my son's Father. Great post! I work from home. I AM daycare for my son. Snow day yesterday. My day with him. I get the comment all the time “You off today”. After over 9 years of “being off” it doesn’t bug me as much. I don’t mind standing in line with the blue hairs at the post office (sorry if you’re blue haired). I don’t have anything ground breaking to add I just wanted to say I’m my son’s Father. Great post!

]]> By: Tim Allik http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-520 Tim Allik Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:07:04 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-520 Hi CC, interesting topic. All parents have a special connection with each other. They've experienced love for a child, a life-changing experience. Like you, I think dads can learn and share from dads in dad-centric communities (this website is an example)and moms can learn and support each other as moms through similar communities. Support groups for stay-at-home dads, corporate moms, gay parents, homeschooling parents, and grandparents as primary caregivers are growing because people find value in them. I'm not sure how I feel about the Disney event. What is a "social media mom" anyway? The concept seems flawed to me, regardless of gender. In almost all cases, just one of the parents is way big into social media anyway. The other one takes care of the children. I kid. I KID! Hi CC, interesting topic.

All parents have a special connection with each other. They’ve experienced love for a child, a life-changing experience. Like you, I think dads can learn and share from dads in dad-centric communities (this website is an example)and moms can learn and support each other as moms through similar communities. Support groups for stay-at-home dads, corporate moms, gay parents, homeschooling parents, and grandparents as primary caregivers are growing because people find value in them.

I’m not sure how I feel about the Disney event. What is a “social media mom” anyway? The concept seems flawed to me, regardless of gender.

In almost all cases, just one of the parents is way big into social media anyway. The other one takes care of the children.

I kid. I KID!

]]> By: Tim Allik http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1442 Tim Allik Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:07:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1442 Hi CC, interesting topic. All parents have a special connection with each other. They've experienced love for a child, a life-changing experience. Like you, I think dads can learn and share from dads in dad-centric communities (this website is an example)and moms can learn and support each other as moms through similar communities. Support groups for stay-at-home dads, corporate moms, gay parents, homeschooling parents, and grandparents as primary caregivers are growing because people find value in them. I'm not sure how I feel about the Disney event. What is a "social media mom" anyway? The concept seems flawed to me, regardless of gender. In almost all cases, just one of the parents is way big into social media anyway. The other one takes care of the children. I kid. I KID! Hi CC, interesting topic.

All parents have a special connection with each other. They’ve experienced love for a child, a life-changing experience. Like you, I think dads can learn and share from dads in dad-centric communities (this website is an example)and moms can learn and support each other as moms through similar communities. Support groups for stay-at-home dads, corporate moms, gay parents, homeschooling parents, and grandparents as primary caregivers are growing because people find value in them.

I’m not sure how I feel about the Disney event. What is a “social media mom” anyway? The concept seems flawed to me, regardless of gender.

In almost all cases, just one of the parents is way big into social media anyway. The other one takes care of the children.

I kid. I KID!

]]> By: Steve Woodruff http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-519 Steve Woodruff Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:13:55 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-519 Unfortunately, there's been a lot of inertial political correctness in making so many things woman/mommy-centric, and ignoring the vital role of men (in society and in the home). I hope the tide will turn somewhat. Being a Dad is not an easy job (I have 5 boys, I know), and it makes it worse when men are belittled and marginalized in the culture at large. Laura, as for being one of the Dads contributing to "This Mommy Gig" blog, I just get a kick out of writing on a Mommy blog. Wouldn't really want it re-branded, because I get to say that I can provide gender balance. I'm just thankful that Ann Handley opened it up to some Dads that way. Unfortunately, there’s been a lot of inertial political correctness in making so many things woman/mommy-centric, and ignoring the vital role of men (in society and in the home). I hope the tide will turn somewhat. Being a Dad is not an easy job (I have 5 boys, I know), and it makes it worse when men are belittled and marginalized in the culture at large.

Laura, as for being one of the Dads contributing to “This Mommy Gig” blog, I just get a kick out of writing on a Mommy blog. Wouldn’t really want it re-branded, because I get to say that I can provide gender balance. I’m just thankful that Ann Handley opened it up to some Dads that way.

]]> By: Steve Woodruff http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1441 Steve Woodruff Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:13:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1441 Unfortunately, there's been a lot of inertial political correctness in making so many things woman/mommy-centric, and ignoring the vital role of men (in society and in the home). I hope the tide will turn somewhat. Being a Dad is not an easy job (I have 5 boys, I know), and it makes it worse when men are belittled and marginalized in the culture at large. Laura, as for being one of the Dads contributing to "This Mommy Gig" blog, I just get a kick out of writing on a Mommy blog. Wouldn't really want it re-branded, because I get to say that I can provide gender balance. I'm just thankful that Ann Handley opened it up to some Dads that way. Unfortunately, there’s been a lot of inertial political correctness in making so many things woman/mommy-centric, and ignoring the vital role of men (in society and in the home). I hope the tide will turn somewhat. Being a Dad is not an easy job (I have 5 boys, I know), and it makes it worse when men are belittled and marginalized in the culture at large.

Laura, as for being one of the Dads contributing to “This Mommy Gig” blog, I just get a kick out of writing on a Mommy blog. Wouldn’t really want it re-branded, because I get to say that I can provide gender balance. I’m just thankful that Ann Handley opened it up to some Dads that way.

]]> By: I Love Being a Dad « C.C. Chapman – Boston Media Maven, Digital Dad and Photographer http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-518 I Love Being a Dad « C.C. Chapman – Boston Media Maven, Digital Dad and Photographer Fri, 08 Jan 2010 13:41:58 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-518 [...] I Love Being a Dad Hello there! If you are new here, you might want to subscribe to the RSS feed for updates on this topic.Powered by WP Greet BoxAnyone who knows me, knows that I’ve got a big problem with the way dads are treated by most people. After what has been a very long week of less then positive times I went off on a bit of a rant around the fact that I am not a mom. [...] [...] I Love Being a Dad Hello there! If you are new here, you might want to subscribe to the RSS feed for updates on this topic.Powered by WP Greet BoxAnyone who knows me, knows that I’ve got a big problem with the way dads are treated by most people. After what has been a very long week of less then positive times I went off on a bit of a rant around the fact that I am not a mom. [...]

]]> By: Scott http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-517 Scott Fri, 08 Jan 2010 12:26:03 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-517 I echo the feeling you and a couple of other comments have pointed out. It's fine by me that it's a mom geared event. But leave it at that. It's okay te reply something like... thanks for the interest, but we don't think you'll get much out of this event. I echo the feeling you and a couple of other comments have pointed out. It’s fine by me that it’s a mom geared event. But leave it at that. It’s okay te reply something like… thanks for the interest, but we don’t think you’ll get much out of this event.

]]> By: Scott http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1440 Scott Fri, 08 Jan 2010 12:26:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1440 I echo the feeling you and a couple of other comments have pointed out. It's fine by me that it's a mom geared event. But leave it at that. It's okay te reply something like... thanks for the interest, but we don't think you'll get much out of this event. I echo the feeling you and a couple of other comments have pointed out. It’s fine by me that it’s a mom geared event. But leave it at that. It’s okay te reply something like… thanks for the interest, but we don’t think you’ll get much out of this event.

]]> By: Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-516 Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) Fri, 08 Jan 2010 08:22:09 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-516 After Kramer vs. Kramer, How about Three Men And A Baby, and it's sequel, Three Men And A Little Lady, incidentally, BOTH are released by Touchstone Pictures, a Disney Brand!, go figure, and who Knew! After Kramer vs. Kramer, How about Three Men And A Baby, and it’s sequel, Three Men And A Little Lady, incidentally, BOTH are released by Touchstone Pictures, a Disney Brand!, go figure, and who Knew!

]]> By: Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1439 Laurens (from Can-EH!-Dia) Fri, 08 Jan 2010 08:22:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1439 After Kramer vs. Kramer, How about Three Men And A Baby, and it's sequel, Three Men And A Little Lady, incidentally, BOTH are released by Touchstone Pictures, a Disney Brand!, go figure, and who Knew! After Kramer vs. Kramer, How about Three Men And A Baby, and it’s sequel, Three Men And A Little Lady, incidentally, BOTH are released by Touchstone Pictures, a Disney Brand!, go figure, and who Knew!

]]> By: Jon Ashby http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-515 Jon Ashby Fri, 08 Jan 2010 07:25:32 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-515 Another solid article CC. I've been a dad for all of four weeks and I've already seen this a few times. On a different angle from marketing I was at the doctor the other day, routine checkup, and while I waited I casually read a brochure aimed at those suffering from postpartum depression. It listed the symptoms, and of course a support group meeting time - just for moms. Nowhere did it indicate any help for dads who might be having a hard time making the transition. No crisis phone number, no group get-together, nothing. I guess the general consensus is that men are supposed to deal with things in a stereotypically quiet and dignified manner. I guess I sometimes forget that as males we shouldn't have emotions, let alone discuss them. I quizzed the doctor about how often dads have trouble when baby comes around, and I wasn't surprised to hear it's very common. But support for dads? He had no idea. Another solid article CC. I’ve been a dad for all of four weeks and I’ve already seen this a few times. On a different angle from marketing I was at the doctor the other day, routine checkup, and while I waited I casually read a brochure aimed at those suffering from postpartum depression. It listed the symptoms, and of course a support group meeting time – just for moms. Nowhere did it indicate any help for dads who might be having a hard time making the transition. No crisis phone number, no group get-together, nothing. I guess the general consensus is that men are supposed to deal with things in a stereotypically quiet and dignified manner. I guess I sometimes forget that as males we shouldn’t have emotions, let alone discuss them.

I quizzed the doctor about how often dads have trouble when baby comes around, and I wasn’t surprised to hear it’s very common. But support for dads? He had no idea.

]]> By: Jon Ashby http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1438 Jon Ashby Fri, 08 Jan 2010 07:25:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1438 Another solid article CC. I've been a dad for all of four weeks and I've already seen this a few times. On a different angle from marketing I was at the doctor the other day, routine checkup, and while I waited I casually read a brochure aimed at those suffering from postpartum depression. It listed the symptoms, and of course a support group meeting time - just for moms. Nowhere did it indicate any help for dads who might be having a hard time making the transition. No crisis phone number, no group get-together, nothing. I guess the general consensus is that men are supposed to deal with things in a stereotypically quiet and dignified manner. I guess I sometimes forget that as males we shouldn't have emotions, let alone discuss them. I quizzed the doctor about how often dads have trouble when baby comes around, and I wasn't surprised to hear it's very common. But support for dads? He had no idea. Another solid article CC. I’ve been a dad for all of four weeks and I’ve already seen this a few times. On a different angle from marketing I was at the doctor the other day, routine checkup, and while I waited I casually read a brochure aimed at those suffering from postpartum depression. It listed the symptoms, and of course a support group meeting time – just for moms. Nowhere did it indicate any help for dads who might be having a hard time making the transition. No crisis phone number, no group get-together, nothing. I guess the general consensus is that men are supposed to deal with things in a stereotypically quiet and dignified manner. I guess I sometimes forget that as males we shouldn’t have emotions, let alone discuss them.

I quizzed the doctor about how often dads have trouble when baby comes around, and I wasn’t surprised to hear it’s very common. But support for dads? He had no idea.

]]> By: Dana Kirk http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-514 Dana Kirk Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:51:50 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-514 C.C., Yeah, I can understand that part of it. If it is really intended specifically for Mom's, then inviting a Dad seems the equivalent of a girl having to bring her kid brother to the Girl Scout meeting because her Mom is making her. Yes, he's allowed to go but how much fun (relevant) would it really be for him. As far as Dad's getting a fair shake, you're right. In many cases, we deserve more credit. I think I'll go watch Kramer vs. Kramer. C.C.,

Yeah, I can understand that part of it. If it is really intended specifically for Mom’s, then inviting a Dad seems the equivalent of a girl having to bring her kid brother to the Girl Scout meeting because her Mom is making her. Yes, he’s allowed to go but how much fun (relevant) would it really be for him.

As far as Dad’s getting a fair shake, you’re right. In many cases, we deserve more credit. I think I’ll go watch Kramer vs. Kramer.

]]> By: Dana Kirk http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1437 Dana Kirk Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:51:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1437 C.C., Yeah, I can understand that part of it. If it is really intended specifically for Mom's, then inviting a Dad seems the equivalent of a girl having to bring her kid brother to the Girl Scout meeting because her Mom is making her. Yes, he's allowed to go but how much fun (relevant) would it really be for him. As far as Dad's getting a fair shake, you're right. In many cases, we deserve more credit. I think I'll go watch Kramer vs. Kramer. C.C.,

Yeah, I can understand that part of it. If it is really intended specifically for Mom’s, then inviting a Dad seems the equivalent of a girl having to bring her kid brother to the Girl Scout meeting because her Mom is making her. Yes, he’s allowed to go but how much fun (relevant) would it really be for him.

As far as Dad’s getting a fair shake, you’re right. In many cases, we deserve more credit. I think I’ll go watch Kramer vs. Kramer.

]]> By: Max Kalehoff http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-513 Max Kalehoff Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:39:03 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-513 Crap. Don't they get it? Dads are parents, too! Today I left my office, where I'm a member of the management team, to come home and relieve the nanny. I then spent the next three hours with my two toddlers -- cooking dinner, brushing teeth, putting pajamas on, reading stories, and then giving back rubs. After cleaning up the house from the mess of toys, I went back to taking care of my executive duties, like answering email, writing plans, and preparing for a big meeting in the morning. Oh yeah, I then kissed my wife when she got in from working late, at 11pm. I may be planning tomorrow night's weekly trip to Costco, but I, too, have a penis. Crap. Don’t they get it? Dads are parents, too! Today I left my office, where I’m a member of the management team, to come home and relieve the nanny. I then spent the next three hours with my two toddlers — cooking dinner, brushing teeth, putting pajamas on, reading stories, and then giving back rubs. After cleaning up the house from the mess of toys, I went back to taking care of my executive duties, like answering email, writing plans, and preparing for a big meeting in the morning. Oh yeah, I then kissed my wife when she got in from working late, at 11pm. I may be planning tomorrow night’s weekly trip to Costco, but I, too, have a penis.

]]> By: Max Kalehoff http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1436 Max Kalehoff Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:39:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1436 Crap. Don't they get it? Dads are parents, too! Today I left my office, where I'm a member of the management team, to come home and relieve the nanny. I then spent the next three hours with my two toddlers -- cooking dinner, brushing teeth, putting pajamas on, reading stories, and then giving back rubs. After cleaning up the house from the mess of toys, I went back to taking care of my executive duties, like answering email, writing plans, and preparing for a big meeting in the morning. Oh yeah, I then kissed my wife when she got in from working late, at 11pm. I may be planning tomorrow night's weekly trip to Costco, but I, too, have a penis. Crap. Don’t they get it? Dads are parents, too! Today I left my office, where I’m a member of the management team, to come home and relieve the nanny. I then spent the next three hours with my two toddlers — cooking dinner, brushing teeth, putting pajamas on, reading stories, and then giving back rubs. After cleaning up the house from the mess of toys, I went back to taking care of my executive duties, like answering email, writing plans, and preparing for a big meeting in the morning. Oh yeah, I then kissed my wife when she got in from working late, at 11pm. I may be planning tomorrow night’s weekly trip to Costco, but I, too, have a penis.

]]> By: Kevin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-512 Kevin Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:23:35 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-512 Thanks for this post CC. The Disney affection for Moms runs pretty deep. While digging into resources recently, we found a site geared toward advice to families traveling to Orlando to shell out their hard earned cash for a "magical" vacation. The name of the site? disneyworldmoms.com So of course those of us stuck with the wrong chromosome know nothing about family travel and great vacation experiences. Funny considering I'm the one in our family with a travel background who is frequently asked to be the family tour guide when heading to places beyond our little patch of heaven called home. Thanks for the "Dadvocacy" efforts! Thanks for this post CC. The Disney affection for Moms runs pretty deep. While digging into resources recently, we found a site geared toward advice to families traveling to Orlando to shell out their hard earned cash for a “magical” vacation. The name of the site?

disneyworldmoms.com

So of course those of us stuck with the wrong chromosome know nothing about family travel and great vacation experiences. Funny considering I’m the one in our family with a travel background who is frequently asked to be the family tour guide when heading to places beyond our little patch of heaven called home.

Thanks for the “Dadvocacy” efforts!

]]> By: Kevin http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-1435 Kevin Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:23:00 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-1435 Thanks for this post CC. The Disney affection for Moms runs pretty deep. While digging into resources recently, we found a site geared toward advice to families traveling to Orlando to shell out their hard earned cash for a "magical" vacation. The name of the site? disneyworldmoms.com So of course those of us stuck with the wrong chromosome know nothing about family travel and great vacation experiences. Funny considering I'm the one in our family with a travel background who is frequently asked to be the family tour guide when heading to places beyond our little patch of heaven called home. Thanks for the "Dadvocacy" efforts! Thanks for this post CC. The Disney affection for Moms runs pretty deep. While digging into resources recently, we found a site geared toward advice to families traveling to Orlando to shell out their hard earned cash for a “magical” vacation. The name of the site?

disneyworldmoms.com

So of course those of us stuck with the wrong chromosome know nothing about family travel and great vacation experiences. Funny considering I’m the one in our family with a travel background who is frequently asked to be the family tour guide when heading to places beyond our little patch of heaven called home.

Thanks for the “Dadvocacy” efforts!

]]> By: C.C. http://www.digitaldads.com/2010/01/i-have-a-penis-i-am-not-a-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-511 C.C. Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:00:46 +0000 http://www.digitaldads.com/?p=588#comment-511 Thanks for all the feedback and constructive discussion. That is really what I hoped this post would start. I have NO problem with any organization, brand, group or individual having a specific demographic for a campaign or event. I work in marketing and completely understand that. What Disney is doing makes sense. They want to have a conference for mothers. That is awesome and I love seeing all these events. Where it bothers me is calling it that and then inviting people who are not moms. Just feels really weird to me. They are not the only ones, but were just the latest. Moms are a super powerful and important demographic. They are made up of a huge variety of women. But, I hope that some day in every angle of life that the Dad will get a fair shake when it comes to being a parent. This is something bigger then just a marketing issue. Looking forward to keeping this conversation going. Thanks for all the feedback and constructive discussion. That is really what I hoped this post would start.

I have NO problem with any organization, brand, group or individual having a specific demographic for a campaign or event. I work in marketing and completely understand that.

What Disney is doing makes sense. They want to have a conference for mothers. That is awesome and I love seeing all these events.

Where it bothers me is calling it that and then inviting people who are not moms. Just feels really weird to me.

They are not the only ones, but were just the latest.

Moms are a super powerful and important demographic. They are made up of a huge variety of women. But, I hope that some day in every angle of life that the Dad will get a fair shake when it comes to being a parent. This is something bigger then just a marketing issue.

Looking forward to keeping this conversation going.

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