Comments on: Are You Ready for Seconds? http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/ The mancave of the Internet, where a Dad can be a Guy. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:58:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: John Arnold http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-48 John Arnold Mon, 11 May 2009 21:07:48 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-48 This post grazes a topic that is foremost in my mind right now. We have our first little one, Catherine, who is 19 months old now and my wife, Ruth, wants to know if I feed ready to try for a second. The problem is not that I don't want another or feel unable to handle it. I'm confident that I wouldn't suffer nearly so much with stress second time around. What's giving me pause is the fact that at 19 months Catherine is *so* much fun and I love her *so* much that I can't bring myself to throw a grenade into this idyllic scene. But at the same time I do want her to have a sibling. Head vs. Heart. Lots to think about. But to respond to the actual post, I find this a fascinating observation. I went through a similar stress period to you, Dan, when Catherine was born. Both Ruth and I did, so much so that we stopped podcasting for many months. The idea that Catherine might go through something similar when we have another child is upsetting to me. Another thing to give me pause over whether it's time to have another. This post grazes a topic that is foremost in my mind right now. We have our first little one, Catherine, who is 19 months old now and my wife, Ruth, wants to know if I feed ready to try for a second. The problem is not that I don’t want another or feel unable to handle it. I’m confident that I wouldn’t suffer nearly so much with stress second time around. What’s giving me pause is the fact that at 19 months Catherine is *so* much fun and I love her *so* much that I can’t bring myself to throw a grenade into this idyllic scene. But at the same time I do want her to have a sibling. Head vs. Heart. Lots to think about.

But to respond to the actual post, I find this a fascinating observation. I went through a similar stress period to you, Dan, when Catherine was born. Both Ruth and I did, so much so that we stopped podcasting for many months. The idea that Catherine might go through something similar when we have another child is upsetting to me. Another thing to give me pause over whether it’s time to have another.

]]> By: John Arnold http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1101 John Arnold Mon, 11 May 2009 21:07:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1101 This post grazes a topic that is foremost in my mind right now. We have our first little one, Catherine, who is 19 months old now and my wife, Ruth, wants to know if I feed ready to try for a second. The problem is not that I don't want another or feel unable to handle it. I'm confident that I wouldn't suffer nearly so much with stress second time around. What's giving me pause is the fact that at 19 months Catherine is *so* much fun and I love her *so* much that I can't bring myself to throw a grenade into this idyllic scene. But at the same time I do want her to have a sibling. Head vs. Heart. Lots to think about. But to respond to the actual post, I find this a fascinating observation. I went through a similar stress period to you, Dan, when Catherine was born. Both Ruth and I did, so much so that we stopped podcasting for many months. The idea that Catherine might go through something similar when we have another child is upsetting to me. Another thing to give me pause over whether it's time to have another. This post grazes a topic that is foremost in my mind right now. We have our first little one, Catherine, who is 19 months old now and my wife, Ruth, wants to know if I feed ready to try for a second. The problem is not that I don’t want another or feel unable to handle it. I’m confident that I wouldn’t suffer nearly so much with stress second time around. What’s giving me pause is the fact that at 19 months Catherine is *so* much fun and I love her *so* much that I can’t bring myself to throw a grenade into this idyllic scene. But at the same time I do want her to have a sibling. Head vs. Heart. Lots to think about.

But to respond to the actual post, I find this a fascinating observation. I went through a similar stress period to you, Dan, when Catherine was born. Both Ruth and I did, so much so that we stopped podcasting for many months. The idea that Catherine might go through something similar when we have another child is upsetting to me. Another thing to give me pause over whether it’s time to have another.

]]> By: Sean Elliot http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Sean Elliot Fri, 01 May 2009 00:54:02 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-8 My son is 5 and daughter will be 2 in June. They have a real regular sibling rivalry brewing. usually it's low-key , but sometimes it turns into a screaming fit when Kaitlyn wants a toy Patrick has or vice versa ... and then every once in a while Patrick will turn to me and just say "dad, I'm not used to her yet ..." the first time I was laughing too hard to find a response, but now I pat him tenderly on the shoulder and tell him "don't worry, you'll get used to her." He seems to find that reassuring. My son is 5 and daughter will be 2 in June. They have a real regular sibling rivalry brewing. usually it’s low-key , but sometimes it turns into a screaming fit when Kaitlyn wants a toy Patrick has or vice versa … and then every once in a while Patrick will turn to me and just say “dad, I’m not used to her yet …” the first time I was laughing too hard to find a response, but now I pat him tenderly on the shoulder and tell him “don’t worry, you’ll get used to her.” He seems to find that reassuring.

]]> By: Sean Elliot http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1100 Sean Elliot Fri, 01 May 2009 00:54:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1100 My son is 5 and daughter will be 2 in June. They have a real regular sibling rivalry brewing. usually it's low-key , but sometimes it turns into a screaming fit when Kaitlyn wants a toy Patrick has or vice versa ... and then every once in a while Patrick will turn to me and just say "dad, I'm not used to her yet ..." the first time I was laughing too hard to find a response, but now I pat him tenderly on the shoulder and tell him "don't worry, you'll get used to her." He seems to find that reassuring. My son is 5 and daughter will be 2 in June. They have a real regular sibling rivalry brewing. usually it’s low-key , but sometimes it turns into a screaming fit when Kaitlyn wants a toy Patrick has or vice versa … and then every once in a while Patrick will turn to me and just say “dad, I’m not used to her yet …” the first time I was laughing too hard to find a response, but now I pat him tenderly on the shoulder and tell him “don’t worry, you’ll get used to her.” He seems to find that reassuring.

]]> By: TimothyPilgrim http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-7 TimothyPilgrim Tue, 28 Apr 2009 02:54:55 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-7 What a timely article. My first-born son is 2 years, 2 months old and we're expecting our second son any moment now. All Gabriel knows is that mommy looks a little different than before and she can't play as much. Good thing daddy is there to play with him. I figure he'll change somewhat when the new one arrives, but time will tell how much and for how long. I'm hoping for the best, since Gabe has turned out to be a model toddler. What a timely article. My first-born son is 2 years, 2 months old and we’re expecting our second son any moment now. All Gabriel knows is that mommy looks a little different than before and she can’t play as much. Good thing daddy is there to play with him. I figure he’ll change somewhat when the new one arrives, but time will tell how much and for how long. I’m hoping for the best, since Gabe has turned out to be a model toddler.

]]> By: TimothyPilgrim http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1099 TimothyPilgrim Tue, 28 Apr 2009 02:54:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1099 What a timely article. My first-born son is 2 years, 2 months old and we're expecting our second son any moment now. All Gabriel knows is that mommy looks a little different than before and she can't play as much. Good thing daddy is there to play with him. I figure he'll change somewhat when the new one arrives, but time will tell how much and for how long. I'm hoping for the best, since Gabe has turned out to be a model toddler. What a timely article. My first-born son is 2 years, 2 months old and we’re expecting our second son any moment now. All Gabriel knows is that mommy looks a little different than before and she can’t play as much. Good thing daddy is there to play with him. I figure he’ll change somewhat when the new one arrives, but time will tell how much and for how long. I’m hoping for the best, since Gabe has turned out to be a model toddler.

]]> By: Tim Finucane http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Tim Finucane Tue, 28 Apr 2009 00:55:53 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-6 My son Shaun did pretty well when we brought his sister Teagan home. They are within weeks of being 2 years apart. Even at 2, we found getting Shaun involved in the day to day activities of the new baby helped greatly. Shaun warmed up quick and was even giving his little sister kisses on the head. guess every parents experiences are different. Of course now that Shaun is 4 and Teagan is 2, they are having regular battles over toys! My son Shaun did pretty well when we brought his sister Teagan home. They are within weeks of being 2 years apart. Even at 2, we found getting Shaun involved in the day to day activities of the new baby helped greatly. Shaun warmed up quick and was even giving his little sister kisses on the head. guess every parents experiences are different. Of course now that Shaun is 4 and Teagan is 2, they are having regular battles over toys!

]]> By: Tim Finucane http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1098 Tim Finucane Tue, 28 Apr 2009 00:55:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1098 My son Shaun did pretty well when we brought his sister Teagan home. They are within weeks of being 2 years apart. Even at 2, we found getting Shaun involved in the day to day activities of the new baby helped greatly. Shaun warmed up quick and was even giving his little sister kisses on the head. guess every parents experiences are different. Of course now that Shaun is 4 and Teagan is 2, they are having regular battles over toys! My son Shaun did pretty well when we brought his sister Teagan home. They are within weeks of being 2 years apart. Even at 2, we found getting Shaun involved in the day to day activities of the new baby helped greatly. Shaun warmed up quick and was even giving his little sister kisses on the head. guess every parents experiences are different. Of course now that Shaun is 4 and Teagan is 2, they are having regular battles over toys!

]]> By: Keith Burtis http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Keith Burtis Mon, 27 Apr 2009 23:19:01 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-5 This is interesting to me because I had my daughter when I was 18 years old. I was a parent when I still needed parenting. It is many years later now, and my daughter is 17 years old. I am due to be married to my girlfriend of 7 years in three weeks and my 17 year old keeps saying, "Are you going to have a baby right away?" So Michelle and I are looking forward to starting a family together. I am really excited about doing the next one a bit more stress free. The perks; I have a built in baby sitter! I look forward to reading this blog :) This is interesting to me because I had my daughter when I was 18 years old. I was a parent when I still needed parenting. It is many years later now, and my daughter is 17 years old. I am due to be married to my girlfriend of 7 years in three weeks and my 17 year old keeps saying, “Are you going to have a baby right away?” So Michelle and I are looking forward to starting a family together. I am really excited about doing the next one a bit more stress free. The perks; I have a built in baby sitter! I look forward to reading this blog :)

]]> By: Keith Burtis http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1097 Keith Burtis Mon, 27 Apr 2009 23:19:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1097 This is interesting to me because I had my daughter when I was 18 years old. I was a parent when I still needed parenting. It is many years later now, and my daughter is 17 years old. I am due to be married to my girlfriend of 7 years in three weeks and my 17 year old keeps saying, "Are you going to have a baby right away?" So Michelle and I are looking forward to starting a family together. I am really excited about doing the next one a bit more stress free. The perks; I have a built in baby sitter! I look forward to reading this blog :) This is interesting to me because I had my daughter when I was 18 years old. I was a parent when I still needed parenting. It is many years later now, and my daughter is 17 years old. I am due to be married to my girlfriend of 7 years in three weeks and my 17 year old keeps saying, “Are you going to have a baby right away?” So Michelle and I are looking forward to starting a family together. I am really excited about doing the next one a bit more stress free. The perks; I have a built in baby sitter! I look forward to reading this blog :)

]]> By: C.C. http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-4 C.C. Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:48:28 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-4 I remember when we brought Emily (our second) home. Dylan would look at her and acknowledge that she was there, but it was a good solid 6 months before she showed any love towards her. He didn't seem to be upset or have any changes in him, but he sure wasn't going to hug or kiss her for quite some time. Anyone who says the second is just like the first is kidding themselves. It is very different. I remember when we brought Emily (our second) home. Dylan would look at her and acknowledge that she was there, but it was a good solid 6 months before she showed any love towards her.

He didn’t seem to be upset or have any changes in him, but he sure wasn’t going to hug or kiss her for quite some time.

Anyone who says the second is just like the first is kidding themselves. It is very different.

]]> By: C.C. http://www.digitaldads.com/2009/04/are-you-ready-for-seconds/comment-page-1/#comment-1096 C.C. Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:48:00 +0000 http://server1.flatcreek.com/~digidads/?p=38#comment-1096 I remember when we brought Emily (our second) home. Dylan would look at her and acknowledge that she was there, but it was a good solid 6 months before she showed any love towards her. He didn't seem to be upset or have any changes in him, but he sure wasn't going to hug or kiss her for quite some time. Anyone who says the second is just like the first is kidding themselves. It is very different. I remember when we brought Emily (our second) home. Dylan would look at her and acknowledge that she was there, but it was a good solid 6 months before she showed any love towards her.

He didn’t seem to be upset or have any changes in him, but he sure wasn’t going to hug or kiss her for quite some time.

Anyone who says the second is just like the first is kidding themselves. It is very different.

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